Hi, I'm Lori, the founder of TEACH through Love and the creator of the Conscious Communication Cards! Thank you so much for stopping by to support our campaign. NEW: STRETCH GOALS ADDED!
These "communication flash cards" help us transform the way we speak to our kids by turning our punitive and reactive language into compassionate communication which builds skills, relieves stress, and strengthens our relationships.
The hardest thing to do when you're facing a toddler tantrum, dysregulated kid, or a defiant teen is to stay calm and respectful.
The cards not only help us curb negative behavior and influence our relationship for the better - they also provide a strong foundation of emotional intelligence which allows kids to flourish into thoughtful, caring, and responsible adults.
The cards offer more than discipline tricks and time-outs.
The cards show you how to restore your influence, reclaim your peace, and create healthy, intimate relationships with your kids. Finally - you can make requests that get HEARD.
There are 45 cards in each deck divided into three color-coded areas of challenge which help us target the root causes of conflict and address what's really going on behind the behavior.
- Take a moment to practice mindfulness.
- Empathize and investigate your child's emotions.
- Acknowledge what is motivating behavior.
- Connect with curiosity and non-judgment.
- Help your child feel calm and build skills.
Some parents review them like flash cards at the end of a long day, and others post them around the house to have in view when they need a quick reference.
Teachers, counselors, and therapists have used the cards with their students and clients to peacefully resolve conflict, build connection, and foster empathy and understanding.
The cards will help you:
- develop your child's emerging skills
- grow closer to your child and have more influence
- decipher the deeper meaning behind challenging behavior
- encode new patterns of responsive language which build connection
Even when we don't "say the right thing" in the moment, reviewing what we could have said instead helps our brains form new patterns.
I don't think there has ever been a more important time to elevate the communication in our world.
I want to create a kind and more respectful world, and it begins with changing how we speak to one another.
The cards do not outline a set of rules for you to follow (heaven knows you don't need any more "rules-for-parenting"), but they help you instill a new set of beliefs about what your children need to develop and thrive - mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Are they scripts?
They are not meant to be word-for-word "scripts," but they outline a step-by-step plan for strengthening our connection, helping kids practicing their emerging skills, and increasing our influence.
Emotional development unfolds through our interactions with our parents and primary caregivers and shapes the structure, size, and connectivity of our brains.
Regulating our emotions is a crucial skill and a key factor in determining our future mental, physical, and emotional health.
Blame, shame, judgment, guilt, and fear stimulate the most primitive parts of our brain activating our fight or flight response and hard-wiring the brain to be:
- resistant to change
Connection through compassionate communication stimulates the more evolved executive center of the brain, firing crucial neural structures linked to:
- allowing children to take responsibility for their actions as they mature.
Parents & professionals find them helpful.
The cards will help you shift your language, but I don't want to leave you without the support you need to make long-lasting changes, so, I'm also including rewards with access to my parent education archives and on-demand classes.
Every reward level includes something tangible for you to take away, and many of the classes included are not available anywhere else on the web.
REWARD JUST ADDED: PDF DOWNLOAD - FULL SET OF CARDS (ESPECIALLY FOR OUR INTERNATIONAL BACKERS)
Changing how we speak begins with changing our perspective.
STRETCH GOALS ADDED!
3 UNLOCKED GOALS - upgraded packaging, EVERYONE gets my Conscious Communication Workbook, we are donating 100 decks to schools and family service agencies and NOW - we're making a deck just for teachers!
Each deck contains 45 professionally printed & color-coded 3.5 x 5.75 in. cards (15 in each area of behavioral concern). Extra cards explaining each target area and how to use them are also included.
The cards are expensive to manufacture, package, and ship. But, because so many of you have let me know that you can't WAIT ANY LONGER - I have created this campaign as a way to bring them to you.
After many late-nights of research, weeks of ignoring my child, and too many take-out dinners to admit to, I hired a designer to update our old format and found a fabulous team at Ad Magic (publisher of many successful Kickstarter campaigns) to print the cards and connect us with a fulfillment company and we are READY!
AS LONG AS WE REACH OUR FUNDING GOAL IN 29 DAYS, we will be on our way to a successful first-run printing!
(Note: Your card will not be charged until August 16th - at the end of the campaign.)
SHIPPING IN THE US IS FREE!
We will ship anywhere in the world but it's crazy expensive, and despite our best efforts to get it lower, there's no way around the $24-34 it will cost us to ship out of the country.
The plus side is - shipping multiple decks is easier on the wallet.
International backers can save on shipping by getting a few friends together to purchase multiple decks with one pledge, and then you can split the shipping cost.
Shipping costs keeping you cardless? NEW REWARD JUST ADDED: PDF Download - Full Set of Cards (for our international backers who asked - this is for you!!)
I'm a Mom, child advocate, and parent educator on a mission to help you become the calm, confident parent you've always wanted to be - and the one your child deserves - through conscious parenting inspiration, education, and support.
I created my Facebook page, Website, and YouTube channel as a way to share the message of conscious communication, and our community has grown to over 50k people sharing the messages of conscious parenting and communication.
My online parent education resources have been serving parents since 2007 with live and on-demand classes, and I teach privately, and speak at conferences, training parents and professionals on how they can transform their homes and classrooms with conscious communication.
I hope you'll consider being part of the movement to make our world a little bit kinder. Thank you so much for your support!
Risks and challenges
Our printer and fulfillment services are lined up and ready to go. We have estimated delivery based on the publishing time frames provided by our printer.
Production times can vary due to circumstances out of our control, but we expect this to be a simple straight-forward process and barring all worldwide technological hiccups, we should be ready to ship by December.
We will keep you updated at every step of the way if there should be changes to our schedule.Learn about accountability on Kickstarter
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