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45 color-coded communication flash cards to help parents reduce stress, build connection, and model respectful communication for kids.
45 color-coded communication flashcards to help parents reduce stress, build connection, and model respectful communication for kids. REWARDS AVAILABLE  until 10/16! CLICK BELOW!
45 color-coded communication flashcards to help parents reduce stress, build connection, and model respectful communication for kids. REWARDS AVAILABLE  until 10/16! CLICK BELOW!
1,565 backers pledged $50,671 to help bring this project to life.

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Conscious Communication Cards: Tools for Talking to Kids

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Hi, I'm Lori, the founder of TEACH through Love and the creator of the Conscious Communication Cards! Thank you so much for stopping by to support our campaign.  NEW: STRETCH GOALS ADDED!

 

These "communication flash cards" help us transform the way we speak to our kids by turning our punitive and reactive language into compassionate communication which builds skills, relieves stress, and strengthens our relationships.

The hardest thing to do when you're facing a toddler tantrum, dysregulated kid, or a defiant teen is to stay calm and respectful.

The cards not only help us curb negative behavior and influence our relationship for the better - they also provide a strong foundation of emotional intelligence which allows kids to flourish into thoughtful, caring, and responsible adults

  

The cards offer more than discipline tricks and time-outs. 

The cards show you how to restore your influence, reclaim your peace, and create healthy, intimate relationships with your kids. Finally - you can make requests that get HEARD. 

There are 45 cards in each deck divided into three color-coded areas of challenge which help us target the root causes of conflict and address what's really going on behind the behavior.    

 

 

  • Take a moment to practice mindfulness.
  • Empathize and investigate your child's emotions.
  • Acknowledge what is motivating behavior. 
  • Connect with curiosity and non-judgment.
  • Help your child feel calm and build skills.  

 

 

 

 

 

Some parents review them like flash cards at the end of a long day, and others post them around the house to have in view when they need a quick reference.

Teachers, counselors, and therapists have used the cards with their students and clients to peacefully resolve conflict, build connection, and foster empathy and understanding.   

 

 

 

 

The cards will help you:

  • develop your child's emerging skills
  • grow closer to your child and have more influence  
  • decipher the deeper meaning behind challenging behavior 
  • encode new patterns of responsive language which build connection

Even when we don't "say the right thing" in the moment, reviewing what we could have said instead helps our brains form new patterns

 

I don't think there has ever been a more important time to elevate the communication in our world. 

I want to create a kind and more respectful world, and it begins with changing how we speak to one another. 

The cards do not outline a set of rules for you to follow (heaven knows you don't need any more "rules-for-parenting"), but they help you instill a new set of beliefs about what your children need to develop and thrive - mentally, physically, and emotionally

Are they scripts?

They are not meant to be word-for-word "scripts," but they outline a step-by-step plan for strengthening our connection, helping kids practicing their emerging skills, and increasing our influence.

Emotional development unfolds through our interactions with our parents and primary caregivers and shapes the structure, size, and connectivity of our brains. 

Regulating our emotions is a crucial skill and a key factor in determining our future mental, physical, and emotional health.

Blame, shame, judgment, guilt, and fear stimulate the most primitive parts of our brain activating our fight or flight response and hard-wiring the brain to be:

  • reactive
  • closed-down
  • resistant to change

Connection through compassionate communication stimulates the more evolved executive center of the brain, firing crucial neural structures linked to: 

  • empathy
  • self-regulation
  • thoughtfulness 

- allowing children to take responsibility for their actions as they mature. 

Parents & professionals find them helpful. 

 

The cards will help you shift your language, but I don't want to leave you without the support you need to make long-lasting changes, so, I'm also including rewards with access to my parent education archives and on-demand classes.

Every reward level includes something tangible for you to take away, and many of the classes included are not available anywhere else on the web.

REWARD JUST ADDED: PDF DOWNLOAD - FULL SET OF CARDS (ESPECIALLY FOR OUR INTERNATIONAL BACKERS) 

Changing how we speak begins with changing our perspective. 

STRETCH GOALS ADDED! 

3 UNLOCKED GOALS - upgraded packaging, EVERYONE gets my Conscious Communication Workbook, we are donating 100 decks to schools and family service agencies and NOW - we're making a deck just for teachers! 

 

 

Each deck contains 45 professionally printed & color-coded 3.5 x 5.75 in. cards (15 in each area of behavioral concern). Extra cards explaining each target area and how to use them are also included. 

 

The cards are expensive to manufacture, package, and ship. But, because so many of you have let me know that you can't WAIT ANY LONGER - I have created this campaign as a way to bring them to you. 

After many late-nights of research, weeks of ignoring my child, and too many take-out dinners to admit to, I hired a designer to update our old format and found a fabulous team at Ad Magic (publisher of many successful Kickstarter campaigns) to print the cards and connect us with a fulfillment company and we are READY!

AS LONG AS WE REACH OUR FUNDING GOAL IN 29 DAYS, we will be on our way to a successful first-run printing! 

(Note: Your card will not be charged until August 16th - at the end of the campaign.)

SHIPPING IN THE US IS FREE!

We will ship anywhere in the world but it's crazy expensive, and despite our best efforts to get it lower, there's no way around the $24-34 it will cost us to ship out of the country.

The plus side is - shipping multiple decks is easier on the wallet. 
International backers can save on shipping
by getting a few friends together to purchase multiple decks with one pledge, and then you can split the shipping cost. 

Shipping costs keeping you cardless? NEW REWARD JUST ADDED: PDF Download - Full Set of Cards (for our international backers who asked - this is for you!!) 

 

That's me and my kiddo!
That's me and my kiddo!

I'm a Mom, child advocate, and parent educator on a mission to help you become the calm, confident parent you've always wanted to be - and the one your child deserves - through conscious parenting inspiration, education, and support.  

I created my Facebook page,  Website, and YouTube channel as a way to share the message of conscious communication, and our community has grown to over 50k people sharing the messages of conscious parenting and communication.

My online parent education resources have been serving parents since 2007 with live and on-demand classes, and I teach privately, and speak at conferences, training parents and professionals on how they can transform their homes and classrooms with conscious communication. 

I hope you'll consider being part of the movement to make our world a little bit kinder. Thank you so much for your support!

Risks and challenges

Our printer and fulfillment services are lined up and ready to go. We have estimated delivery based on the publishing time frames provided by our printer.

Production times can vary due to circumstances out of our control, but we expect this to be a simple straight-forward process and barring all worldwide technological hiccups, we should be ready to ship by December.

We will keep you updated at every step of the way if there should be changes to our schedule.

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    Babbler

    For a few quarters, you can print the cards at home and stick them to your kid's forehead for easy reference.

    You'll also be creating a kinder, more compassionate world.
    THANK YOU!!

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    Baby Talk

    Skip the grimy indoor playground, and spend your ten bucks here. You'll get everything in the BABBLER reward PLUS you'll avoid the germs and learn to talk like a boss with 1-month access to my searchable, time-stamped audio archive of over 200 parenting Q&As!

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    Digital Communicator

    International backers - WE HEARD YOU!

    Added by popular demand - this Printable PDF includes a full set of the communication cards to download and print at home.

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    The Negotiator

    Get a NO FRILLS deck! No classes, no support, no downloads - just you, the cards, and your mother's voice in your head left alone to battle it out.

    Be among the first to own these communication starters!

    WANT MORE DECKS? Add $25 to your pledge for each additional deck. Extra shipping charges may apply if you get more than 3.

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    Early Talker

    For a 30 bucks, you'll receive everything in the BABY TALK reward PLUS I'll send you an actual deck you can throw at the wall when your kids don't listen.

    Includes:
    • 1 Deck of Communication Cards
    • Printable PDF of Communication Cards (FULL SET)
    • 1-Month Access to my Q&A Call Archive
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    Late Talker

    Thinkin' you'll need more than a few breezy vocab variations to turn this chaos around?

    The LATE TALKER gets you everything in the previous reward level PLUS you can threaten to take away ALL of your kid's toys until you've finished your choice of one Introductory Parenting Class.

    On-demand classes/content accessible at the end of the campaign. Decks estimated delivery 12/2017.

    Includes:
    • 1 Deck of Communication Cards
    • Choice of One Single-Session Parenting Class
    • Printable PDF of Communication Cards (FULL SET)
    • 1-Month Access to my Q&A Call Archive
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    Late Talker 2

    ... because sometimes, you need a do-over. We corrected the shipping for our US peeps.

    Thinkin' you'll need more than a few breezy vocab variations to turn this chaos around?

    The LATE TALKER gets you everything in the previous reward level PLUS you can threaten to take away ALL of your kid's toys until you've finished your choice of one Introductory Parenting Class.

    On-demand classes/content accessible at the end of the campaign. Decks estimated delivery 12/2017.

    Includes:
    • 1 Deck of Communication Cards
    • Choice of One Single-Session Parenting Class
    • Printable PDF of Communication Cards (FULL SET)
    • 1-Month Access to my Q&A Call Archive
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    Back Talker

    If you're willing to donate your monthly coffee fund (and I know that's a lot to ask), I'll send you everything in the EARLY TALKER reward PLUS you can download my ENTIRE library of communication classes to ensure that you'll alienate any parent friends still tolerating you!

    (psst... you won't care because your kids AND their kids will listen to you the MOST!)

    Also, you'll have 3 months to get it together with my archived Q&A calls - searchable + time-stamped because I know you're short on time!

    On-demand classes/content accessible at the end of the campaign. Decks estimated delivery 12/2017.

    Includes:
    • 1 Deck of Communication Cards
    • Conscious Communication Series
    • Printable PDF of Communication Cards (FULL SET)
    • 3-Months Access to my Q&A Call Archive
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    Sweet Talker

    Every kid is different. If yours gets unhinged with the slightest change in tone, you can get everything in the EARLY TALKER reward PLUS download my Supporting Sensitive Children series and leave your egg-shell walkin' self behind!

    On-demand classes/content accessible at the end of the campaign. Decks estimated delivery 12/2017.

    Includes:
    • 1 Deck of Communication Cards
    • Supporting Sensitive Children Series
    • Printable PDF of Communication Cards (FULL SET)
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    Talk Therapy

    The Counselor 3-Pack for professionals OR maybe some table-top reading, baby shower favor, or stocking-stuffer for the parents-to-be?

    You don't have to decide! Get 3 DECKS with this reward.

    Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with you!

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    Tween Talk

    If you really "believe children are the future, teach them well and let them lead the way" - then choose this reward.

    Includes everything in the EARLY TALKER reward PLUS an extra deck, 2 extra months of archive access, and you can download my 40-day on-demand transformational parenting series.

    Figure out exactly why you don't understand those darn kids of yours with this 10+ hour recorded series.

    On-demand classes/content accessible at the end of the campaign. Decks estimated delivery 12/2017.

    Includes:
    • 2 Decks of Communication Cards
    • Peaceful Solutions for Parents & Kids: A 40-Day Transformation
    • Printable PDF of Communication Cards (FULL SET)
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    Native Speaker

    Now you're talkin'! Give away a deck to the babysitter, your kid's teacher, the grumpy store clerk, or your mother-in-law. At this level, the sky's the limit!

    You'll receive everything in the TWEEN TALK reward PLUS an extra deck and my Conscious Communication programs so you'll be talking like a native in no time.

    On-demand classes/content accessible at the end of the campaign. Decks estimated delivery 12/2017.

    Includes:
    • 3 Decks of Communication Cards
    • Peaceful Solutions for Parents & Kids: A 40-Day Transformation
    • Conscious Communication Series
    • Printable PDF of Communication Cards (FULL SET)
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    Linguist

    I'll create 3 cards JUST FOR YOU to be included in the final deck. Inspire me with your communication failures!

    And, you'll be a language master after accessing everything in the NATIVE SPEAKER reward PLUS a year to dig through the Q&A archive for all your late-night queries.

    On-demand classes/content accessible at the end of the campaign. Decks estimated delivery 12/2017.

    Includes:
    • Create your own cards - 3 original topics inspired by your kids!
    • 3 Decks of Communication Cards
    • Peaceful Solutions for Parents & Kids: A 40-Day Transformation
    • Conscious Communication Series
    • Printable PDF of Communication Cards (FULL SET)
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    Public Speaker

    You, my friend, are doing the world a great service.

    Access my entire library of on-demand classes, get 5 decks to use or give away, and I'll personally sit down with you via skype for 3 private sessions to set a plan for your family to talk with more respect, compassion, and clarity.

    On-demand classes/content accessible at the end of the campaign. Decks estimated delivery 12/2017.

    Includes:
    • 5 Decks of Communication Cards
    • 3 Private Sessions (60 min ea.)
    • Download my Entire Library of Parenting Classes
    • Printable PDF of Communication Cards (FULL SET)
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