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We are making a full length documentary on "Love-Shy" men. They continuously fail at sex & relationships with women.

View The Short Film Here:

HOW WILL THE FULL LENGTH FILM BE DIFFERENT?

We will maintain the tone of the short, but by making it full length we will be able to dive deeper into the issues and create a more relatable and empathetic film. This project will also have more involvement and feedback from the love-shy community. 

"LOVE-SHYNESS" is an obscure term used to describe a kind of severe romantic shyness or phobia. Love-shy men long for what they fear most - women, sex, and relationships. Many believe they are doomed to suffer a lifetime of loneliness, never losing their virginity or experiencing love. It was first coined by controversial psychologist Brian G. Gilmartin, in his book, Shyness and Love (1987). Since then it has been adopted by an internet forum, Love-Shy.com, where members can discuss their fear of women and the detriment it has had on their lives. The discussions that arise are often disturbing, misogynistic, and convey an overwhelming sense of hopelessness. Sometimes the ridiculous assertions made about women are so far-fetched that they are laughable, and many forum members acknowledge the comical side of their debates. But sometimes things get very serious and members disappear without explanation for long periods of time, and not until later is the truth revealed - that a member withdrew from the world to become a recluse, or worse, to take their own life.

The controversy surrounding the term "Love-Shyness" makes it almost undefinable. It is an idea that is not accepted by most contemporary psychologists and can't be found in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), published by the American Psychiatric Association. It isn't directly discussed in the media or popular culture. On the forum, it is accepted that only men are affected by love-shyness and that their daily torment goes completely unnoticed by the world.

The film follows forum members from around the world, all identifying as either love-shy or incel (involuntarily celibate), and all unified in their quest to finally connect with a woman. It has been almost two years since the making of the short film. Due to time and budget limitations, many aspects of love-shyness weren't covered and certain story-lines and characters had to be cut from the film. 

The feature-length format will allow the story and nuances of love-shyness to be fully explored.

Why We Need $27,000

In order to make a feature length expansion, we have budgeted the costs of equipment rental, travel, a basic editing setup, etc. at a minimum of $27,000. The forum is international and many of the most interesting characters live abroad, requiring some travel. Kickstarter is "all or nothing", so if we don't reach our goal, everyone gets a refund and we receive nothing. 

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Original artwork by Efraim Klein, Kate Cerrone, & Jade Gardephe

Who We Are

Sara Gardephe -- Director. Currently living and working in NYC as a documentary editor. 

Michael G. -- Associate Producer. Owner of Love-Shy.com

Jade Gardephe -- Assistant Director. 

Daniel Sheppard -- Associate Producer.

Brian Moon -- Music.

For more on Shy Boys IRL and to help spread the word; find us on Twitter, Facebook, & Tumblr or check out the official website at shyboysirlmovie.com

Risks and challenges Learn about accountability on Kickstarter

The forum members fear exposure, embarrassment, and harassment from "trolls" (internet bullies). Also, as female filmmakers, we must explore the effects of our presence and our individual relationships with the forum members. We are working hard to put the forum members at ease with both of these issues (trolls and the presence of female filmmakers). This time around, with your contributions and a great team of collaborators - Shy Boys: IRL can finally be realized in full.

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