Share this project

Done

Share this project

Done
Together We Can: Cards to Send to Friends Facing Hard Times project video thumbnail
Replay with sound
Play with
sound
$6,841
pledged of $6,409 goal
backers

All or nothing. This project will only be funded if it reaches its goal by .

$6,841
pledged of $6,409 goal
backers

All or nothing. This project will only be funded if it reaches its goal by .

About this project

What's it all about?

When someone you care about is going through a difficult time, perhaps due to depression, physical illness or following a bereavement, it can be hard to know what to say – but when we’re feeling alone and life is a bit dark, little messages of love brought to us via the postman can make even the darkest day a little lighter.

With this in mind, we’ve designed a range of cards to help you keep in touch – they are designed to be light-hearted and hopeful with the occasional bit of dark humour thrown in for good measure. Within our cards, you could write few words, or many – either way, receiving a card will let your friend know you’re thinking of them.

As well as cards and envelopes, each pack contains a guide full of practical suggestions to help you support your friend through a difficult time written by mental health expert Dr Pooky Knighsmith. 

Our hope is that these cards and our suggestions will enable you to reach out the hand of friendship when your loved one needs it most, but at a time when we are often afraid or don’t know what to say, so might have said nothing at all.

Tell me about the cards themselves..

We will grow the range depending on interest and funding levels, but at a minimum we hope to launch with three sets of cards:

Pack 1: Sweet and Sincere (3 cards)

These cards are hand picked from our range to convey kindness and hope to help your friend find their way through the fog.

Pack 2: Reaching Out (3 cards)

These cards are picked from our range to help you let your friend know you are thinking of them and that you're ready to listen or be there if they need a friend.

Pack 3: Smiles Despite Sadness (3 cards)

These cards are picked from our range to help put a smile on your friend's face with a twist of humour whilst still acknowledging that this is a tough time for them.

All cards and additional cards (some co-created with our kind backers) will be available to buy individually. In addition to cards and envelopes, purchasers will receive Pooky's guidance on how to support a friend at a difficult time including a range of simple ideas you might try.

Costings:

Our Kickstarter aim of £5000 funding is based on us producing 3000 cards of ten designs, dispatched, by post, in packs of 3 based on the costings below.

Design - £500

Printing - £1750 

Envelopes - £450 

Guidance development, design and printing - £350 

Cellophane wrapping for each card / pack - £50 

Labour - £200 

Packaging and fulfilment - £1700 

We are aiming for break even in the hope that this project will help to raise both awareness and spirits. However, we will work to high standards but minimise costs where possible and any proceeds remaining will support the work of the Charlie Waller Memorial Trust’s Children and Young People’s Projects directed by Dr Pooky Knightsmith

Timings

If our Kickstarter campaign is successful, we hope to have our cards ready for dispatch by August 2017.  If the range is successful, we will continue to add to it and make the range available via Amazon and hopefully other retailers will be keen to supply our cards also (if you have any connections please let us know!) 

Who are we?

Caro Fenice is a housemistress and artist with a passion for good pastoral care, mental health and pupil welfare.  She is the creative one.  Dr Pooky Knightsmith is an expert in child and adolescent mental health, she vice chair of the UK's children and young people's mental health coalition.  She's the practical one.  

Both Pooky and Caro have first hand experience of mental health issues and appreciate the power of hand written mail to lift the gloom on the darkest days.  

Pooky currently has time to invest in this project as she is receiving inpatient care for anorexia, so the project is proving a positive focus whilst she is too unwell to attend her usual (many) work commitments.  Caro is finding time to work on the project in-between looking after the children in her care at school.

You can tweet us @PookyH and @fenicec

Think you can bring something to the party?

Caro and Pooky are a friendly pair and we would be keen to bring on board further collaborators, especially if they brought with them expertise of the print, retail or distribution industries which are the areas we're least experienced in.  Email pooky@inourhands.com if you'd like to discuss being involved as more than simply a backer.  

Finally, if you'd like to suggest a reward and an amount you'd be happy to pledge, I am happy to add to the list, this is possible throughout the 30 days.  Again, email pooky@inourhands.com if you have a suggestion.  

Thank you for reading and please consider backing our project - we think it could touch a lot of lives in a really positive way.

Risks and challenges

The key risk we face is that It costs a lot of money to fulfil orders by post which may make people feel our cards are a little more expensive than they'd like to pay. We are working on the basis of making little or no profit with any profits going to the Charlie Waller Memorial Trust Young People's programme.

We will also look for avenues where cards and packs can be sold directly so that the cost of fulfilment / postage is not incurred by all future customers if the project takes off.

The other potential risk is that we are working on the basis of producing and dispatching approximately 3000 cards in packs of three. If we exceed our funding target by a long way then this will have a big impact on our ability to meet the needs and expectations of those who've pledged. However, I've had experiencing of this type of 'issue' before and at the Charlie Waller Memorial Trust we have a willing band of volunteers who I am confident would be willing to step in and help in the short term.

Finally, Pooky is the project manager and is currently in inpatient care for anorexia and PTSD. It is possible that she may become too ill to continue with the project but she is receiving excellent care at the Nightingale Hospital and the signs are positive. Recovery will take a little while but the project does not feel unmanageable.

Learn about accountability on Kickstarter

Questions about this project? Check out the FAQ

Support this project

  1. Make a pledge without a reward

    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  2. Select this reward

    Pledge £1 or more About $1.30

    Just because..

    I love this idea and want to make a small donation to help get you started

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    15 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  3. Select this reward

    Pledge £2 or more About $2.59

    Single Card + 'how to support a friend'

    I'd like to buy an individual card from the range so I can support a friend at a difficult time.

    You'll receive a single card and envelope ready for your own message.

    You can select from the full range of cards.

    You will also receive Pooky's guidance on how to support a friend at a difficult time including a range of simple ideas you might try.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    15 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  4. Select this reward

    Pledge £6 or more About $8

    3 cards: Sweet & Sincere + support ideas

    I'd like to buy the 'Sweet and Sincere' three card pack so I can support a friend at a difficult time.

    You'll receive 3 cards and envelopes ready for your own message.

    These cards are hand picked from our range to convey kindness and hope to help your friend find their way through the fog.

    You can select from the full range of cards.

    You will also receive Pooky's guidance on how to support a friend at a difficult time including a range of simple ideas you might try.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    8 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  5. Select this reward

    Pledge £6 or more About $8

    3 cards: Reaching Out + support ideas

    I'd like to buy the 'Reaching Out' three card pack so I can support a friend at a difficult time.

    You'll receive 3 cards and envelopes ready for your own message.

    These cards are picked from our range to help you let your friend know you are thinking of them and that you're ready to listen or be there if they need a friend.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    6 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  6. Select this reward

    Pledge £6 or more About $8

    3 cards: Humour + support ideas

    I'd like to buy the 'Smiles Despite Sadness' three card pack so I can support a friend at a difficult time.

    You'll receive 3 cards and envelopes ready for your own message.

    These cards are picked from our range to help put a smile on your friend's face with a twist of humour whilst still acknowledging that this is a tough time for them

    You will also receive Pooky's guidance on how to support a friend at a difficult time including a range of simple ideas you might try.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    16 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  7. Select this reward

    Pledge £6 or more About $8

    3 cards: memories for bereaved children

    This pack of cards will enable the sender to share memories of a friend who has died with their children, providing a precious memory for children which they can cherish over the years and use them to help understand a little more about their parent.

    Each of the three cards will prompt the sender to share how they knew the bereaved parent and in what context and a memory - one card will provide prompts to share a funny memory, one will prompt the sharing of a memory of kindness and the third will prompt a memory that the sender feels really sums up the very essence of their bereaved friend.

    Each pack will also come with a guide to friends of bereaved parents to help them support their friend through a difficult time. This will be co-authored by Helen Daykin who lost her husband and hopes to create precious memories for her young daughters Pearl and Iris.

    If you pledge for this reward you can either choose to receive the cards yourself so you can share memories with a bereaved child, or you can choose to donate a pack of cards to a bereaved family to help them with the healing process.
    You'll receive 3 cards and envelopes ready for your own message.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    1 backer
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  8. Select this reward

    Pledge £10 or more About $13

    Just because + twitter thank you

    I love this idea and want to make a donation to help get you started

    In addition to being eternally grateful, Pooky will send a tweet of thanks for your valuable support from her twitter account @PookyH

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    19 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  9. Select this reward

    Pledge £11 or more About $14

    7 cards inc special + support ideas

    I'd like to buy two packs of three cards each (I'll select two packs from the 'Sweet and Sincere', 'Smiles Despite Sadness' and 'Reaching Out' packs) so I can support a friend at a difficult time.

    I'll also receive an additional card created especially for backers of this reward.

    You'll receive 7 cards and envelopes ready for your own message.

    You will also receive Pooky's guidance on how to support a friend at a difficult time including a range of simple ideas you might try.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    36 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  10. Select this reward

    Pledge £15 or more About $19

    Just because + video thank you

    I love this idea and want to make a donation to help get you started

    Pooky will record a short video of thanks for your valuable support

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    4 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  11. Select this reward

    Pledge £15 or more About $19

    10 cards - The animal series

    I'd like to receive a pack of 10 cards which are all animal themed - this will include the cards created by Kickstarter pledgers who chose to include their pet.

    You'll receive 10 cards and envelopes ready for your own message.

    You will also receive Pooky's guidance on how to support a friend at a difficult time including a range of simple ideas you might try.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    2 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  12. Select this reward

    Pledge £15 or more About $19

    Just because + handwritten thank you

    I love this idea and want to make a donation to help get you started

    In addition to being eternally grateful, Pooky will send you a handwritten card - after all, this whole project is about the power of post to raise a smile, why not give yourself a little something to look forward to when the postman comes?...

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    0 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  13. Select this reward

    Pledge £16 or more About $21

    11 cards inc special + support ideas

    I'd like to buy three packs of three cards each (I'll select three packs from the 'Sweet and Sincere', 'Smiles Despite Sadness' and 'Reaching Out' packs) so I can support a friend at a difficult time.

    I'll also receive an additional card created especially for backers of this reward.

    You'll receive 11 cards and envelopes ready for your own message.

    You will also receive Pooky's guidance on how to support a friend at a difficult time including a range of simple ideas you might try.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    41 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  14. Select this reward

    Pledge £25 or more About $32

    Co-Design a Card for the Range

    Work with Pooky and Caro to develop the design and messaging for a card to add to our range.

    Once approved, your card will be available as part of our range and each copy will include recognition of your input and support (unless you prefer to remain anonymous.

    You will receive 3 copies of the card you designed and a copy of the digital image for your own use.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    Limited (3 left of 15) 12 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  15. Select this reward

    Pledge £38 or more About $49

    Co-Design a Card + 10 card series

    Work with Pooky and Caro to develop the design and messaging for a card to add to our range.

    Once approved, your card will be available as part of our range and each copy will include recognition of your input and support (unless you prefer to remain anonymous.

    You will receive 3 copies of the card you designed and a copy of the digital image for your own use.

    You will also receive 10 cards which you can choose from our range. Each card which will be complete with an envelope ready for you to hand write and post on to spread a little joy!

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    Limited (13 left of 15) 2 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  16. Select this reward

    Pledge £50 or more About $65

    Feature your pet

    We'll create a card for our friend featuring your favourite furry (or feathery or scaly) friend, so they can help make others smile.

    Once approved, your card will be available as part of our range and each copy will include recognition of your input and support (unless you prefer to remain anonymous.

    You will receive 3 copies of the card you designed and a copy of the digital image for your own use.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    Limited (4 left of 12) 8 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  17. Select this reward

    Pledge £50 or more About $65

    Q&A with Pooky for your blog or podcast

    Interview Pooky for your blog or podcast - you might choose to pick her brains about mental health and practical ways to support, or use the time completely differently - the world is your oyster (just keep it clean kids ;)

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Limited (4 left of 5) 1 backer
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  18. Select this reward

    Pledge £50 or more About $65

    Attend our Launch

    Attend our launch event which promises to be a fun affair with many faces from the world of child and adolescent mental health. This will be a great chance to show your support for the project and the Charlie Waller Memorial Trust as a whole as well as an opportunity to let your hair down and enjoy drinks and nibbles on us.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Limited (11 left of 25) 14 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  19. Select this reward

    Pledge £63 or more About $82

    Feature your pet + 10 card series

    We'll create a card for our friend featuring your favourite furry (or feathery or scaly) friend, so they can help make others smile.

    Once approved, your card will be available as part of our range and each copy will include recognition of your input and support (unless you prefer to remain anonymous.

    You will receive 3 copies of the card you designed and a copy of the digital image for your own use.

    You will also receive a pack of 10 cards which are all animal themed - this will include the cards created by other Kickstarter pledgers who chose to include their pet.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    Limited (12 left of 12) 0 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  20. Select this reward

    Pledge £75 or more About $97

    Memories for children: Memorial pack x50

    50 cards for creating precious memories – these are designed for use at a memorial event or funeral of someone who has died whose children may find the memories of others a precious keepsake and a way to learn more about a parent they lost too young. These will be provided with pre-printed address labels so that people can send them on to the family after the memorial if preferred.  

    These cards will enable people to share memories of a friend who has died with the bereaved person’s children, providing a precious memory for children which they can cherish over the years and use them to help understand a little more about their parent. 

    There will be three cards which will each prompt the sender to share how they knew the bereaved parent and in what context and a memory - one card will provide prompts to share a funny memory, one will prompt the sharing of a memory of kindness and the third will prompt a memory that the sender feels really sums up the very essence of their bereaved friend.  

    Each card will also come with a guide to friends of bereaved parents to help them support their friend through a difficult time.  This will be co-authored by Helen Daykin who lost her husband and hopes to create precious memories for her young daughters Pearl and Iris.

    If you pledge for this reward you can either choose to receive the cards yourself or to donate the reward to a bereaved family (If you are a bereaved family and would like the receive a pack of these cards, please email pooky@inourhands.com with a little about your story that I can share with potential sponsors).

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    0 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  21. Select this reward

    Pledge £150 or more About $194

    Dinner with Pooky

    Take Pooky out for dinner, either purely for pleasure or to pick my brains about the world of child and adolescent mental health.

    This is kind of a special reward as I'm currently recovering from anorexia - but I'm always keen to meet like minds and hope you won't mind travelling to NW1 where I"m currently in hospital - there are many nice eateries nearby.

    This reward is subject to sign off from my doctors (and husband!)

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Limited (2 left of 5) 3 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.
  22. Select this reward

    Pledge £200 or more About $259

    200 individual cards for resale

    Receive 200 individually cellophane wrapped cards ready for resale.

    Less
    Estimated delivery
    Ships to Anywhere in the world
    0 backers
    £
    Kickstarter is not a store.

    It's a way to bring creative projects to life.

    Learn more about accountability.