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From Piles to Postnatal Depression.  100 truths about pregnancy, birth and parenthood.
From Piles to Postnatal Depression. 100 truths about pregnancy, birth and parenthood.
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Nobody Tells You... 100 Truths about pregnancy, birth and parenthood.

"Nobody Tells You..." is the book that everyone who has had a baby and everyone who wants to have a baby, needs to read.  

"Nobody Tells You..." is the book that all new parents wished they had.  It is the book you wish you had read when you first saw those two blue lines on your pregnancy test!  It is the book you wished you had when you were glued to the sofa feeding your baby. It is the one you buy your best friend when she announces her pregnancy. It is the book she refers to time and time again as her pregnancy progresses and as she brings her baby home for the first time.  It’s the book that her partner, to his surprise, enjoys reading and recommends to his friends.  It’s the book that you can rely upon to let you know about all the things that “Nobody Tells You.”  

After 40 years of looking after pregnant women, 49 combined years of parenting, 8 years of grandparenting and 5 years of Antenatal class teaching, father and daughter, Roger Marwood (an Obstetrician and Gynaecologist) and Becca Maberly (mum of 2 and pregnancy/postnatal expert) have met their fair share of new mums and dads. One thing they all have in common apart from a bit of sick on their shoulder and bags under their eyes is the complaint that there are so many things that “Nobody Tells You”.

New mums curse their mother, sister, best friend, antenatal class teacher, midwife or doctor for not being honest with them.  Why did nobody tell them that trying to conceive is not always plain sailing, that “morning sickness” can actually mean all day nausea, that strangers in the supermarket might touch your bump and that birth does not need to be scary- it can be amazing, even enjoyable.  

How come no one mentioned that a back-to-back baby may be harder to push out, that 1 in 3 women will give birth by Caesarean Section, that you might poo whilst pushing your baby out and that it doesn’t mean you failed if you have an epidural.  Nobody explained that the postnatal ward can be hellish, that you might not bond with your baby straight away and that’s ok, that breastfeeding can be empowering or heartbreaking, that you might not be able to sleep for worrying about your new baby, that you might struggle with your emotions,  and that you will not shower or poo in peace for the next 18 years and that despite all this it’s all worth it!

Women and their partners who are not well prepared for their birth or for the postnatal period can find it incredibly tough, mentally and practically.  It is so important to have realistic expectations so that the physical and emotional changes that so often go hand in hand with parenthood do not feel like a nasty shock.   We are passionate about providing honest, reliable and evidence-based information for pregnancy, birth and what comes after. 

We are lucky enough to have a supportive and inclusive community on social media who share this feeling too.  This book comes from that passion and a commitment to ensure that no new mum or dad feels scared, alone or worried by the changes they are experiencing.  

"Nobody Tells You..." will cover 100 topics ranging from early pregnancy right through to the postnatal period.  Each topic is covered by a story and photo from a real person, highlighting a subject that nobody told them about.  This will be accompanied by a passage from an expert clarifying any issues surrounding the subject and offering practical advice and reassurance that what you are experiencing is normal. 

There is no scaremongering and no sugar coating, just practical and expert advice delivered with positivity and good dose of humour! 

We are going to self-publish this book, and we would love your support to help us print 1000 hardback copies.  By pre-ordering a copy for yourself or your friends, you can help us to fund this project and to make sure that every new mum or dad gets the honest advice that they deserve. 

We have lots of other rewards too if you would like to offer more support!

Please do share this campaign with any friends, family, colleagues or journalists who you think might be interested in hearing about it!

If you have any questions, please do get in touch. 

Come find us @amotherplace

Thank you for your support everyone.

Thank you following generous people for letting us use their images and words and helping us with our Kickstarter campaign - 

Lorna Hayward, Megan Lane, Tilly Barfield-Jones, Lexi Allman, Rachel Simms, Molly Gunn, Trudi Eade, Lydia Banfield, Philippa Excell, Chestli Kris Buen, Miki Agrawal, Eliza Farrar, Hannah Macgregor- Funky Photographers, Hannah Brooke Photography, Anna Erwin-Iles, Mandie Gower and Eren Ozkural.

Risks and challenges

We are really excited about this book. It is long over due! (pun not intended!!!) It is going to be a real challenge to bring it all together as we have never done anything like this before! But we have a great team assembled- with some expert advice and support from friends in publishing, and mentors who have self-published, and excellent designer who has worked on books before and a healthy dose of determination, we are going to get this book in your hands by December 2019.

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    The Book + Online Antenatal Class

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    I want to be in the book!

    Always wanted to see your name in print? Want to have the ultimate memento of your version of parenthood? We are offering 10 supporters a chance to submit your own Nobody Tells You Story plus a photo!

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    Please note that any submission will need to be from a list of subjects provided by us and will be subject to sympathetic editing by the authors, to make sure it fits in with the tone of the book.

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