by Lightspeed Magazine
I get the same conflict of being taught to be proud of my heritage and being taught to hide it.
Wow--I mapped my father onto Ricky Ricardo, too. Being Chinese from the Philippines my dad had two sides, the Chinese side was Mr. Spock (stoic, rational, the chess master), and the filipino side was Ricky Ricardo (leaping out of his recliner during televised sporting events to whoops and holler and loving to tell jokes but be totally inept at getting the punchlines right). And I definitely mapped the white mom/brown dad image onto Lucy and Ricky. Especially since when I was a kid The Lucy Show was on EVERY DAY. (We didn't have cable TV yet.)
My father didn't speak anything but English to us because he wanted me and my brother to assimilate. And his parents in the Philippines had done the same there, so he didn't even speak Chinese. I always felt robbed of a cultural heritage because of that. I've always thought that my brother and I would have assimilated just fine even if he'd taught us another language, but what do I know?
"So yes, let’s destroy the default I grew up being taught to embrace. Let’s unlearn erasure. Let’s keep chipping away at it until everyone everywhere feels like stories are for all, and not just for one kind of person."
Yes, yes please