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This project was successfully funded on January 4, 2013.
About this project
We’re Funded! And a Personal Thank You Note from Kaneisha
weeks ago when I sat down to plan this Kickstarter campaign with my
team, I could not imagine what a 30-day all-or-nothing campaign would be
like. My friends, family, and mentors inspired me to play big so I
decided to go for a big $10k goal. I figured that most advances for new
authors are around $10k, and I wanted to see if I could do something
similar even without the backing of a big publishing house.
I knew I had written a book that was a product of my personal learning and research, answers to questions I was often asked, and just plain obsession with analyzing and strategizing about relationships and happiness. However, as I like to say, without purse or script, I decided to dive into the campaign.
30 days later, we are fully funded with even a little to spare. To all you early fans and supporters, I can’t thank you enough. I’m truly grateful for your support that has allowed this campaign to be a monumental success!
I’m in the last few days of finalizing the manuscript and sending it off to the printer. As we polish the book, I get more and more excited about sharing it with you and self-love mavens around the world. For the many of you that know me personally, you know I will be teaching and coaching people in one form or another until I die. This book encompasses the best lessons in life and love that I’ve learned so far, and I hope that reading it will entertain, inspire, and delight you as much as writing it did for me.
Once the campaign closes, my team and I go immediately into production and preparing logistics in order to get the pre-ordered books out to you in time for Valentine’s Day 2013. Not only will all of you get to enjoy your BYOB goods when they arrive at your doorstep, I want you to also know that your help has allowed me to send free copies to 100 women’s centers around the US.
I will also be preparing for a worldwide launch of the book on February 13, 2013 (the international day of self-love). To your friends and family who would still love to read my book, please let them know they can go to BeYourOwnBF.com to stay up-to-date on BYOB news.
Thank you so much again in helping me make my dreams come true. I hope you enjoy my book. I am so grateful, so excited, and ready!
Hello friends, classmates, Facebook family, and fellow self-love mavens!
When I was in my early twenties, I read every self-improvement book I could get my hands on, but few of the fun, entertaining, and inspiring books I read showed me how to get what I wanted in life outside of getting a man.
Be Your Own Boyfriend is the book I wish I'd had when I was in college. This book will give young women the tools they need to navigate the murky waters of their twenties with confidence, from letting go of relationships that don't serve them to getting clear on their life goals and getting the encouragement and guidance they need to pursue their passions.
The more people who buy the book and pledge to the campaign, the more copies we can donate to college women's centers, and the more equipped I will be to publicize the book to an even wider audience beyond this group of our early fans here on Kickstarter.
If we meet our $10,000 funding goal, we will send free paperback copies of Be Your Own Boyfriend to 100 college women's centers around the nation.
Most colleges have a women's center which serves as a safe, fun space for people of all genders with a special focus on programs, activities, and resources that address the concerns and interests of young women. These women's centers have small, curated libraries of books of interest to young women, and we will be sending copies of BYOB to women's centers who have expressed to us that they are eager for a fresh, new perspective on relationships, self-love, and success to share with their students.
What's in the Book
- Part 1: Decide to Be Happy, in which I discuss the importance of letting go and moving on, whether it's self-defeating habits or soul-sucking relationships
- Part 2: Unleash Your Sexy, in which I encourage young women to invest time and energy into crafting a sensual life from the inside out
- Part 3: Change Your Life where I guide the reader in getting clear on what she wants out of life and encourage her to take real steps toward achieving her goals
Throughout the book, I reveal the 50 Self-Love Principles every young woman needs for crafting a life that she is head over heels in love with. Sprinkled throughout each chapter are real reader-submitted stories and advice, insight from guys called "brospectives," and juicy details about my own life struggles and triumphs, called Kaneisha Confessionals.
Be Your Own Boyfriend is a fun, inspiring, and motivating read. It will make you laugh, it will make you think, and best of all, it will make you want to take action to change your life into what you want it to be.
Here are some of the prizes you get for pledging toward the Be Your Own Boyfriend Kickstarter campaign:
You can also get coaching with Kaneisha!
Since graduating from Harvard, I have been a coach for high-achieving Millennials, helping them in the areas of graduate school admissions, career, and relationships. I'm offering various coaching options as rewards for pledging to this campaign—the perfect gift for the New Year for yourself or a friend no matter your age.
Be Your Own Boyfriend would make a great gift for the holidays!
Since the books will be shipping in January, we have created gorgeous gift vouchers for you to print out and give to your friends and family, letting them know that you have pre-ordered a signed copy of the book for them. Just go to http://beyourownbf.com/voucher to download the full-color PDF voucher.
Special thanks to
- Nick Paul Photo, photographer
- Carlos Abril, book cover design and BYOB illustrations
- Millie Ramirez, book editor
- AJ Miranda, videographer and video editor
- Linnett Viljoen, manifesta print designer
Music in Kickstarter video:
Artist: Broke For Free
Song: "Something Elated"
Song: "Everything Is Changing"
Thank you for reading! Please pledge and spread the word. We can't do it without you!
Risks and challenges
The book is written so no worries about me getting writer's block! The main challenge would be if we encounter production delays with book printing. The BYOB launch team has been working closely with our printer to make sure that all rewards will be ready to go on time. And as soon as our project "kicks" (meets its minimum funding goal of $10,000), we will start ordering the prints, greeting cards, and bookmarks. We will wait until the Kickstarter ends to order the books to make sure that everyone who's name is supposed to be in the book is properly included. This is a low-risk high-reward project to support that will allow you to give back while also getting awesome prizes in exchange!Learn about accountability on Kickstarter
Backers are folks like you who pledge money toward a Kickstarter campaign. The reason you are called a backer rather than a “customer” for instance is that pledging money toward a Kickstarter campaign isn’t like shopping at an online store. If we don’t raise at least 100% of our goal ($10,000), we don’t get any money, none of the backers get the prizes, and you don't have to pay.
All prize levels include FREE SHIPPING to one US address. The international shipping fee is the price to ship to one international address.
If you buy a multiple-book package (e.g. 4 books) and want us to mail the books to several U.S. addresses, simply add $3 per separate address to your pledge and we will send them out for you! Sorry but we are unable to ship multiple book packages to separate international addresses.
Pledge $1 or more
SNEAKY PEEKERS: You’ll get instant digital access to a never-before released sample chapter of Be Your Own Boyfriend (BYOB). This backer level is also how you get access to all our uber-special backer updates. //// TO DOWNLOAD THE SAMPLE CHAPTER: Simply go to the backer updates section on this page and scroll to the update that says "Download your free sample chapter here!"Estimated delivery:
Pledge $7 or more
WHY HELLO THERE!: 2 delightful BYOB greeting cards of your choice – one for you and one to send to a friend who needs some BYOB love (just in time for Valentine's Day). Also: sample chapter to downloadEstimated delivery:Only ships to: United States
Pledge $10 or more
BYOB E-BOOK: You get your very own e-book version of Be Your Own Boyfriend for your Kindle, iPad, or Nook. Also: sample chapter for immediate downloadEstimated delivery:
Pledge $25 or more
BYOB NO-BRAINER PACKAGE: We send you a SIGNED paperback copy of Be Your Own Boyfriend along with the collector’s set of 4 BYOB greeting cards and a BYOB bookmark. Also: sample chapter for immediate downloadEstimated delivery:Ships anywhere in the world
Pledge $40 or more
BYOB GIFTER: Get TWO signed copies of Be Your Own Boyfriend. Also: 2 bookmarks, sample chapter for immediate download.Estimated delivery:Ships anywhere in the world
Pledge $50 or more
BYOB PRINTMASTER FLASH: You get the two 8.5” x 11” BYOB prints (book cover + manifesta) + the BYOB e-book version + everything in the BYOB NO-BRAINER PACKAGE (signed book, collectors set of BYOB greeting cards, bookmark, and sample chapter for immediate download)Estimated delivery:Ships anywhere in the world
Pledge $80 or more
BYOB 4-PACK: Get a group of friends together to buy 4 signed copies of Be Your Own Boyfriend. Also: 4 bookmarks; sample chapter for immediate download.Estimated delivery:Ships anywhere in the world
Pledge $100 or more
GIRL TALK!: Read the book and let's talk! At this level, you get access to a one-hour small group ask-Kaneisha-anything virtual Q&A session to be held in March + everything in BYOB PRINTMASTER FLASH LEVEL: (both BYOB prints, e-book, signed book, collector’s set of greeting cards, bookmark, and sample chapter for immediate download.) The Q&A sessions are limited to 20 attendees each and you can choose from several themed Q&A sessions: (1) love, sex + dating (2) living the luscious single life (3) finding your passion / changing careers (4) writing, publishing, and marketingEstimated delivery:Ships anywhere in the world
Pledge $100 or more
9 backers Limited (38 left of 47)
BYOB NAME IN THE BOOK: Get a signed, numbered, limited edition hardcover copy of Be Your Own Boyfriend with your name in the thank you section! ALSO: collectors set of greeting cards, both BYOB prints, BYOB bookmark, sample chapter for immediate download.Estimated delivery:Ships anywhere in the world
Pledge $150 or more
2 backers Limited (98 left of 100)
BYOB GIVING BACK: We will mail 2 signed paperback copies of BYOB to a women's shelter, college women's center, or library of your choice with a "donated by YOUR NAME HERE" bookplate inside each book (You can specify the exact organization you want to receive the book or choose a college women's center from our list.) PLUS 1 signed, numbered, limited edition hardback copy of BYOB mailed to you to enjoy! You also get your name in the book!Estimated delivery:Ships anywhere in the world
Pledge $150 or more
3 backers Limited (7 left of 10)
QUOTE IN THE BOOK: Got something to say to the readers of Be Your Own Boyfriend? Here's your chance to share some self-love wisdom. We will work with you to craft a great quote to be included in the book, which will include your name and title (or you can be anonymous if you wish). ALSO: You get a signed, limited edition hardcover copy of the book with your name in the thank you section, collector's set of greeting cards, both BYOB prints, bookmark, and sample chapter.Estimated delivery:Ships anywhere in the world
Pledge $350 or more
2 backers Limited (8 left of 10)
COACHING CALL WITH KANEISHA: Have a 60-min 1-on-1 coaching call or live work session with Kaneisha via Skype about: MBA/MPP admissions, starting your own profitable passion-fueled business, or relationship and dating issues. PLUS: Get a signed paperback copy of Be Your Own Boyfriend!Estimated delivery:Ships anywhere in the world
Pledge $1,000 or more
1 backer Limited (4 left of 5)
BYOB GODFATHER/MOTHER: Heey Papi (or Mami)! You get all kinds of deliciousness! We send you a limited edition hardcover copy of BYOB (signed, inscribed, numbered) with your NAME IN THE THANK YOU SECTION; admission for 2 to a BYOB workshop (in Austin or virtual); 4 registrations to a Girl Talk session for you and your friends; a one-hour coaching session on a topic of your choice with Kaneisha (for you or a friend); 4 signed paperbacks with BYOB bookmarks and 4 e-books to gift; 2 complete collectors sets of the BYOB greeting cards; 2 sets of BYOB prints (4 prints in total); the sample chapter to download; and of course my deepest and heartfelt gratitude.Estimated delivery:Ships anywhere in the world
Pledge $1,000 or more
1 backer Limited (4 left of 5)
DELUXE COACHING PACKAGE: Get four 60-minute 1-on-1 coaching calls or live work sessions via Skype with Kaneisha on MBA/MPP admissions, starting a business, or relationship issues. PLUS: 1 hardcover signed inscribed and numbered copy of Be Your Own Boyfriend with your name in the book!Estimated delivery:Ships anywhere in the world
Pledge $1,000 or more
1 backer Limited (4 left of 5)
BYOB ULTIMATE FAN: This is for the person who LOVES Be Your Own Boyfriend's message and wants to spread it far and wide! WHAT YOU GET: 10 signed hardcover copies of the book + 20 signed paperback copies of the book to resell and/or give out to everyone you love + 2 paperback copies mailed to a college women's center of your choice. We will also work with you to create a great quote to be included in the book. Your name will be in the thank you section of all books as well. ALSO: 1 collector's set of greeting cards, both BYOB prints, 1 bookmark, and sample chapter for immediate download.Estimated delivery:Only ships to: United States
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