We need to teach children social and emotional skills in much the same way we teach them their ABC's and their 123's.
The Time-In ToolKit will give you everything you need to create a calming space for children ages 3-9+ for use in homes, classrooms, daycare centers, therapy settings and more.
Taking a time-in is not a punishment, it's a way to help children learn to process their emotions and calm down, so they are ready to problem-solve, learn and grow.
The Time-In ToolKit comes with two manuals to walk you through the process of 1) creating a calming space and 2) introducing this space, along with the concept of "time-in's" (instead of time-out's and punishment) to children.
Children learn more from watching the things we do than listening to the things we say. The Time-In ToolKit helps us lead and guide children by example, nurturing their emotional intelligence.
- PeaceMakers Sticker Chart: 24" x 36": full color on high quality paper
- 35 PeaceMakers Resealable Animal Stickers
- Feelings Poster: 24" x 36": full color on high quality paper
- PeaceMakers: a mindfulness card game
- My Calming Strategies Coloring Pages: print and color (PDF)
- My Calming Strategies Cards: cut and laminate (PDF)
- Creating A Calming Corner: printable manual (PDF)
- Using Time-Ins: printable manual (PDF)
- Printable Signs (PDF): 8.5" x 11" in color and B & W
One ToolKit is all you need for a child, family, or even an entire classroom of kids.
When a five year old child misspells her name, do we sit her in a chair and tell her to sit there for 3 minutes to think about what she did?! No, that would be silly, and actually counter productive.
Instead, we break the task down, model the skills we are looking for in an engaging way, and reinforce each new budding ability we see emerging from this child. We make it safe for her to practice these skills and to make mistakes until eventually, she gets it.
Taking a similar approach to teaching children how to manage their bodies, minds, and feelings works equally as well. We can meet children where they are, socially and emotionally, teaching them with loving, clear and consistent boundaries, free from shame, blame, and pain.
As adults, we have the power to teach children how to manage their emotions and behaviors by modeling these strategies ourselves, however, remaining regulated in the presence of a child who is not can be challenging. Finding and maintaining our center as parents and educators working with children takes tools, support and practice.
When we practice responding instead of reacting to kids when they are upset or overwhelmed, we help them grow their social and emotional skills. Research points to modeling as the most powerful teaching practice of all.
Set up a cozy, inviting space and establish your personal Calming Corner guidelines. The ToolKit comes with the "Creating a Calming Corner" manual devoted to holding your hand through this process.
Help children learn to recognize when they would benefit from visiting their Calming Corner. Using the playful games, tools and strategies that make up the Time-In ToolKit makes this process fun!
With practice, children can begin to recognize the four different moods we all feel and put words to their feelings.
The first step to emotional regulation is awareness. This is the case for big kids too (that's you and me), helping us to respond instead of react.
By practicing self-awareness, we cultivate patience and self-control, both in ourselves and in our children.
Use your Calming Corner on a regular basis! There will no longer be a need to put children in forced isolation or to tell them to send them away, to their room, etc. When emotions run high, children and adults can take a time-in instead. The "Using Time In's" Manual that comes with every Time-In ToolKit will guide you through this process.
And you don't need to wait until children are upset or acting out to visit your Calming Corner. Connection builds compliance. The behaviors we are looking for from children are easier to learn when they are feeling powerful, safe and connected. The Calming Corner is a safe, inviting "get-to" place kids go to feel better and learn, not a punishment.
The many posters, games and tools included in the Time-In ToolKit help you practice talking about emotions with kids on a regular basis.
The two manuals that come with the ToolKit will help you establish Calming Corner guidelines that suit you and your children's needs, inviting you to adapt these tools to best suit your home, classroom, day care center, etc.
And you can track our progress here:
If you'd like additional items to your ToolKit (Example: maybe you'd like to hang a Feelings Poster both in your playroom AND in the kitchen), this is your chance to snag them with big savings.
Simply add the amount listed below for any additional items you might like to your pledge of $49 or more in the US or $99 or more internationally and I will ship them to you without additional shipping fees when I send your reward items. Duty fees may apply in some countries but I will be shipping items to Canada and the EU from within Canada and the EU to minimize shipping costs and expedite the process.
Kickstarter has a max of x10/item rule, so for example, x1 Feelings Poster comes with every ToolKit, so if you pledged $49 for a ToolKit, you could add on up to 9 more Feeling Posters to your order. None of this is necessary though! This is just for those of you who want MORE of one component or another. :) Message me if you have any questions!
- Add a Six Week Online Positive Parenting Course with Suzanne Tucker to any reward level! - just $49 ($189 retail value) Start in September or October, you decide.
- PeaceMakers Chart + Resealable Animal Stickers - $11 ($20 retail value, x 1 poster/sticker set comes in every TooKit) Add additional
- Add additional PeaceMakers mindfulness card game - $20 ($26 retail value, x 1 box of PeaceMakers comes in every TooKit)
- Feelings Poster - $9 ($18 retail value, x1 comes in every ToolKit)
- Resealable Animal Stickers - $5 ($8 retail value, x 1 set comes in every TooKit)
- Add a Stress Free Kids Coloring Book by Lori Lite - $10 ($14.99 retail value; this is an add-on item and not included in the Time-In ToolKit)
If you are a campaign backer, you qualify to nominate a school or non-profit within the USA to receive FREE Time-In ToolKits. We will be donating 100 Time-In ToolKits to qualifying nominees if we reach our highest goal!
Though punishment based discipline like time-outs may lead to short-term compliance, they do not enhance moral behavior or teach children useful conflict-resolution skills*. While often well intended, punitive childrearing practices fail to address the underlying cause of a child's "mis"-behavior and are usually ineffective in accomplishing the goals of discipline: to change behavior and build skills.**
Spanking, yelling, shaming and isolating children can be harmful, lowering their developing sense of self, and trust for the world around them.
All children deserve to feel powerful, safe and connected. We have the science but we lack the skills. This is where the Time-In ToolKit and Generation Mindful's supportive community come in.
*Hoffman, Martin. (1970) “Moral Development.” In Carmichael’s Manual of Child Psychology, 3rd ed., volume 2, edited by Paul H. Mussen. New York: Wiley.
**Chapman, Michael and Zahn-Wexler, Carolyn. “Young Children’s Compliance and Noncompliance to Parental Discipline in a Natural Setting.” International Journal of Behavioral Development 5 (982): p. 90.
Children can learn self awareness, social awareness, self care and social skills in much the same way they learn to read and write, through modeling. We, as adults, deserve not only effective tools, but a supportive community to grow into these tools and to do our own healing and growing, free from shame and judgement.
The Time-In ToolKit makes connection, instead of punishment, a habit, nurturing children's social and emotional skills through everyday teaching moments at home or in the classroom.
Thank you for taking a look at my Kickstarter campaign. I am hopeful that together we can replace time-outs with the practice of time-ins all over the world.
Suzanne Tucker, Founder, Generation Mindful
PS: If you are still reading and want MORE, click the image below and check out this Facebook Live video I did to introduce a few elements of the toolkit to friends and family the night before this campaign launched. It was my first FB Live video EVER so please, be gentle. ;)
I have more plans to support school communities wanting to implement a positive approach to discipline, incorporating mindfulness school-wide. SNEAK PEAK HERE.
Generation Mindful is a community of parents, educators, and therapists on a mission to end punitive childrearing practices, replacing them with affirming tools and strategies rooted in mindfulness, connection and PLAY.
Generation Mindful was founded by physical therapist, mom of four, and parent educator Suzanne Tucker in April of 2016 on Kickstarter. The idea for the company came when graduates from her positive parenting classes were asking for help connecting with their kids, especially when they were feeling overwhelmed and stressed.
Suzanne saw a need to help adults connect mindfully with kids in practical, playful ways, and Generation Mindful was born.
Suzanne is not interested in adding more "have-to's" or "should's" into the world; only "get-to's" and "can we please?!?!!", thus Generation Mindful's commitment to playful connection.
Suzanne leads regular Infant Massage and Positive Parenting classes in St. Louis, Missouri where she and her husband have had a holistic outpatient rehabilitation center for 15 years. She also founded My Mommy Manual, an online community inspiring parents to "look inside themselves for instructions", in 2008.
A lover of life's little moments, Suzanne plans to spend the rest of her life collecting them with the ones she loves. She wrote the Generation Mindful Manifesto as a love note to you:
Germany based Illustrator Roxana Farcas is the founder of Birdcage - a small design studio that specializes in crafting brands for businesses around the world. Birdcage is an adventure built on organized rule breaking, following its our own creative journey each and every day.
Outside of the design world, Roxana is adventuring around with her husband, wondering where the next trip will take them, and seriously hoping that it will be at the beach.
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Risks and challenges
This campaign's rewards are simple, our designs about 80% complete, and our manufacturer is standing by. I have already received print samples of both of the large posters and the animal stickers (and they are awesome!!! see pictures above).
And though I do not foresee any bumps in the road, they would not be bumps if I could see them, so I promise you this: if any complications arise, you will be the first to know. Through the highs and the lows of making the Time-In ToolKit a reality, I will be in constant communication with you.
This is my second campaign. My first one was successful (thank you!) and delivered on time, in a large part due to the talented folks at JSI Warehouse in Arnold, MO, whom I will be working with again.
Spreading the word is my biggest challenge as Generation Mindful is a small operation, but small can be mighty and this is what brings me here to you. The Time-In ToolKit needs a passionate, informed community to take it into the world. We are doing nothing less than changing the mindset of our culture when it comes to how we nurture and guide children.
It's a big job, but together we can. Let's do this thing.
xo SuzanneLearn about accountability on Kickstarter
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