The Freedom of Fantasy, by I.G. Frederick (aka Korin I. Dushayl)
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And now, today's essay, from one of the most intelligent, learned sensualists I know, I.G. Frederick, who also happens to be a female dominant. Since the "50 Shades" phenomenon, dominance and submission seems to be better recognized by the mainstream as a valid form of sexuality than before, but those of us in the BDSM subculture can still suffer many of the same oppressions as LGBTQ+ individuals, including social stigma, being fired from jobs or denied housing, denied visitation rights to our children, and so on. Especially those who don't fit the recognizable Christian Grey/Anastasia Steele mold of male dom/female sub. Circlet Press has published a fair number of kinky novels and anthologies now and intriguingly enough they rarely feature male dom/female sub ... because even within the marginalized, we seek and support the margins. Many of our books have feature female dom/male sub: including not only I.G.'s own Spyder's Trouble, but also The Viscountess Investigates, Beyond the Softness of His Fur, and House of Sable Locks, to name a few.
The Freedom of Fantasy
By I.G. Frederick aka Korin I. Dushayl
Humans are incredibly sexual beings who, for the past couple millennia, have lived in societies that repressed their sexuality.
We were physically designed to enjoy sex. We are covered in erogenous material (skin). Each body part has fans who find the sight or feel of that particular bit incredibly alluring and every single body bit has folks who are turned on when that precise piece is touched. We're so sexual some people get aroused by objects that normally would have nothing to do with sex (shoes, for example).
We have entire books (some quite old) illustrated with the incredible number of ways that humans can engage in what we call sexual intercourse. If you explore bondage and discipline and/or sadomasochism you can find myriad additional activities that kinksters find sexually stimulating.
Some people can even reach orgasm through administration of (what others would consider) agony or a command given at the right time by the right person.
And yet we constantly create cultures that criticize our sexual choices, inhibit our desires, and discourage us from exploring anything sensual. Not allowed to probe our attraction to someone of same sex (or often the opposite sex), criticized for--or even prevented from--learning about our own genitalia, threatened with blindness if we pleasure ourselves, we're physically frustrated, inhibited, and restrained from a young age.*
But then there's the human mind -- the most erogenous zone in the entire body -- which determines whether or not we find something arousing, off-putting, or somewhere in between. And that mind is perfectly capable of exploring its sexuality without any physical stimulation.
Which is why erotic literature has been so very, very popular through the ages. You can find examples of erotica throughout history -- and often the more repressed a culture, the more wicked and/or graphic the erotica.
Through erotica folks can explore all the things forbidden by the culture they grow up in. Some folks even find erotica liberating enough to break free of the culture that constrained them to one-position, heterosexual, for-the-purpose-of-procreation, in-a-marital-relationship-only intercourse.
Erotica allows those who have been taught that same sex relationships are "abominations" to consider how beautiful that attraction can be; it gives those who have been deprived of knowledge about their own bodies an idea of the potential those bodies hold to find ecstasy in another human being's two (or three) arms; and offers an explanation of why wooden spoons and/or clothes pins might seem so alluring.
Now combine erotica with speculative fiction -- genres which challenge us to think differently about what it means to be human -- and the possibilities to titillate your imagination become endless. (And with ebooks, none of your condemning relatives even have to know what you're reading.) So grab an ereader (or just your smart phone) and load it with the incredible variety of erotic speculative fiction produced over the past 25 years by Circlet Press. Free your mind, and your sexuality, to discover endless possibilities you may have never realized existed.
*This conflicted combination also has resulted in a lack of recognition, until recently, for asexuality as a sexual orientation.
Bio: I.G. Frederick trades words for cash, specializing in erotic and transgressive fiction and poetry since 2001. Her erotic short stories appear in anthologies produced by publishers in the U.S., the U.K., and Canada. Her longer work ranges in scope from romantic erotica (Dommemoir) to tragedy (Choices) to BDSM Space Opera (Spyder's Trouble). A FemDom, Ms. Frederick owns the man she adores. Although dominant in the rest of his life, he demonstrates his love by serving as her submissive. Ms. Frederick's fiction and poetry celebrate finding love in BDSM relationships from the authority of one enjoying that for more than a decade. A former newspaper reporter and trained observer, I.G. Frederick also watches the many ways human interactions turn ugly. She writes about abusive and tragic relationships as Korin I. Dushayl. Under both names, she tells stories of characters spanning a wide range of gender and sexuality. More on her websites: http://eroticawriter.net/ and transgressivewriter.com/