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Watch the video that millions have seen and that might help change the way people view marriage equality.
Watch the video that millions have seen and that might help change the way people view marriage equality.
Watch the video that millions have seen and that might help change the way people view marriage equality.
6,508 backers pledged $384,375 to help bring this project to life.

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    1. Creator Ardescar Xenowolf on September 15

      *wonders* iam still waiting ... till now i havent seen the movie ... cus i wanted to wait till i get the DVD. And i really would like to know how many havent got their reward. So i created a Poll - would you be so kind and choose there if you have got a DVD or not???
      With this project i created my kickstarter account.

    2. Creator Gabrielle Moseley on September 15

      As posted under Update #30. I was shocked anew to see the volume of comments here, too: What I posted there: " didn't ever receive my rewards, either. It seems from the volume of disgruntled responses that I am not alone. Please honor your word. If you intended to make the film based on donations rather than based on pledges with promises of something provided in return, then you should have conducted your Kickstarter campaign with that being explicit and called for DONATIONS. I probably would have still donated something; but as it stands now, while it's true the film was made, I've yet to see it myself and my sense of pride and participation as a backer palls because you haven't honored your part of the deal for me and, it seems, a great many others worldwide."

    3. Creator Brant Dixon on September 4

      Just been told i can watch it on Netflix ! yeah no thanks

    4. Creator Lee on August 24

      Yep-No rewards received for me either after donating $50. It's been years now. Can we get our money returned as they haven't kept to their word? I'm sure the movie has made money!!

    5. Creator Andrew Innes on August 3

      Like so many other people, I helped to fund this project and haven't received anything. I was originally very moved by the story, but now saddened by the complete lack of followup or contact from the Producers to my enquiries. It'd certainly deter me from funding another Kickstarter project. It makes me think I've been taken for a fool.

    6. Creator Sam on July 31

      Have all the rewards been sent out? I haven't received anything yet. Maybe it'll come before the project hits a '3-year late' status...

    7. Creator Bas Förster on July 28

      I also reported the project. There is no way of contacting you, only apologies for delays, and with so many people nit having received their rewards, this just seems like a scam. It's almost a miracle that there is a movie in the end. Very disappointed here.

    8. Creator Solveig Felton on July 9

      I have now used the "Report this project to Kickstarter" button at the bottom of the 'Campaign' page and selected the post-funding option. Don't know if it will make any difference, but I am very disappointed by the complete lack of acknowledgement of my attempts to contact the people behind the project to report the non-delivery of my rewards.

    9. Creator Leo Sonneveldt on June 20

      I know backing shouldn't be for the reward, but promising something and then not keeping that promise...makes me a bit sad...

    10. Creator Mark Beattie on June 17

      Nothing for me either - really disappointed with all this.

    11. Creator Anna Jones on May 6, 2015

      Still haven't received anything. All my information is the same. I have tried leaving comments here, direct messages, emails, and phoning, all with no reply.


      This is the first Kickstarter I ever backed, and going through this experience 3+ years later, it makes me never want to back any good cause ever again. It's a shame.

    12. Creator Corey Vost on May 4, 2015

      Received an email from you recently asking me to contact you privately if I had not received my reward, but with no method of being able to contact you!!! I was proud to be a part of something some important, but am beginning to think I was conned! How many people have actually received their reward?

    13. Creator Kristen VanDyke on April 28, 2015

      I have a change of address, but only as of a few months ago. How can I provide my new address information?

    14. Creator Tara Norman on April 24, 2015

      This is a total scam. You've taken all our money and not given us what we've paid for. Your company's actions seem very fraudulent. You are to provide ALL of us with an update as to where our goods are or kickstarter will be notified about this and they are allowed to take legal action. 3 years since I gave you my money, I've not moved, and I've received nothing but BS updates twice a year apologizing for delays. It's on Netflix so please stop BS'ing us with excuses and give us the rewards or return all of our money. I expect an update in short order.

    15. Creator Susan Phillips on April 23, 2015

      Re: your update
      HOw do we contact you privately?

    16. Creator Susan Phillips on April 23, 2015

      Thanks for the update. I was a $50 backer. I am using the same email. I have not received a reward. When you sent out the notice to report change of address two years ago i did at that time. Your update says to contact you directly but no email address was given.

    17. Creator Giuseppe Lo Presti on April 23, 2015

      I have not yet received my reward, I am in Rome, Italy.
      My address has not changed nor has my email address.

    18. Creator Alan Greene on April 23, 2015

      There seem to be a lot of us in the same boat. No change in address, but still no sign of any rewards. I have yet to receive a response to either of the messages I sent the producers in the past 6 months.

    19. Creator Jackson Wai Chung Tse on April 23, 2015

      I also have not received the award either, and same as many commenters, no change in address, no change in email, and never contacted you before now. Thanks!

    20. Creator Helene Lavoie on April 23, 2015

      Hello, I have not received the reward either, my email or adress have not changed and I previously had written about it without a reply....

    21. Creator Michelle Measures on April 23, 2015

      I have not yet received my reward, I am in England in the UK.
      My address has not changed nor has my email address.

    22. Creator Maria Hjerppe on April 23, 2015

      Apparently I can't type today! Below comment was supposed to read "I as well have NOT received my reward [...]".

    23. Creator Maria Hjerppe on April 23, 2015

      I as well have now received my reward, and I'm at the same address. I am unsure to which email address to write, so I'll just follow everyone else's example and leave a comment here...

    24. Creator niek024 on April 23, 2015

      I too have not received my reward (DVD), even though the address (Netherlands) is correct. How do I contact you? I sent a private message via the Kickstarter interface, will that work?

    25. Creator Tony Payne on April 23, 2015

      Still have not received my reward for a $50 contribution and now have updated my information twice. Disappointed as other kickstarter things I have participated in have been completed timely and as promised.

    26. Creator Elise Correa Rocha on April 23, 2015

      I have yet to receive any rewards either. I do not know which e-mail address to write to however.

    27. Creator Justin James on April 23, 2015

      I still haven't received my rewards either. Which email do we write to get the rewards sent out?

    28. Creator Mary Jane Wells on April 20, 2015

      Dear Linda,

      How are you doing? How is your project?

      I wonder, as a previous backer, if I may presume to direct you to my project which is live today?
      AN eviscerating, life-affirming new play tells the true story about rape in the military...

      If you feel you can donate or share that would be fabulous. No pressure however!

      Mary Jane Wells

    29. Creator on April 11, 2015

      This documentary has now become a classic!

    30. Creator David Johnson on March 24, 2015

      I contributed at the $100 level. So, I should have physically received:

      - "Beautiful Boy" MP3 (received)
      - "Bridegroom" DVD (received)
      - "Bridegroom" T-shirt (NOT received)
      - "Bridegroom" Blu-ray (NOT received)

      As noted above, I have the MP3 and the DVD, but no t-shirt, and no blu-ray. (Frankly, I would have preferred to just get the blu-ray instead of the DVD. What am I going to do with two copies of the movie?) It's been almost three years since this campaign was funded, and almost half a year since we last got any updates about this. What gives? I get that the bottom line is the producers bit off more than they can chew when they said they could get all these rewards out within a few months. Poor planning on their part, but there's nothing to be done about that now. What frustrates me is this complete silence for months at a time, and then a quick blurb saying, "Still working on it, thanks for your patience. Sunshine and rainbows, lolzors!" that really tells us nothing. What I would like to see is a monthly email with the numbers showing their progress in sending out these rewards. If they'd just do that, you might still have some grumblers because it's taking so long, but overall they'd probably have a lot less complaints because we backers would be able to see some actual progress on this, and have some expectation of when we'd be receiving our rewards.

      I like to support local businesses, but I don't just go into these places to toss money at the owner and leave. If I or other customers don't get any benefit in return, why bother supporting them? The same principal applies here. My sense of altruism is appeased because I contributed to something I believed in, and it's succeeded. However, the producers introduced a business side of this when they guaranteed goods in exchange for money. Given the circumstances behind why this film needed to be made, business seems to be a dirty subject to bring into it. Nevertheless, it’s there, and at the end of the day, we all gave money with the guarantee of something in return, and that guarantee has not been fulfilled for what appears to be a large majority of us, judging by the comments thread. Campaigns like Bridegroom, where the creators drop the ball but don’t want to take responsibility, make people leery of funding sites like Kickstarter or IndieGoGo. By not fulfilling their promise, they are hurting the funding potential for every other funding campaign out there.

    31. Creator Dietmar Bloech on March 21, 2015

      I have pledge on the 50 USD level and haven't received any reward as of now ... getting a bit worried by the radio silence ...

    32. Creator Daniel Aleksandersen on March 3, 2015

      No reward, no update. #scam

    33. Creator Brant Dixon on February 11, 2015

      this whole project has been a joke !!

    34. Creator Karen Waters on February 6, 2015

      Is this bailout being done alphabetically? Being a "W" really sucks … Last update was October … I know it's not that long ago but any update about our physical rewards would be great.

      After all, last message back in Jan 2014 stated "Updated Jan 7 2014 - apparently DVDs being sent within next 3 weeks."

    35. Creator Anna Vuong on January 27, 2015

      I have since moved since I backed this project. Who do I need to contact to provide a new shipping address please? Many thanks.

    36. Creator Alan Greene on January 21, 2015

      It's been 3 months since the last update. Can someone please provide a progress update? How many backers still waiting for rewards, estimated time remaining until everyone receives theirs? We're approaching 3 years since this campaign was successfully funded, and well over a year since the movie was released.

      I agree with the comments of others that it's not all about the rewards. I am delighted to have had the opportunity to back this project and play my small part in getting this incredibly important message out to the world. However, I would like to actually see the movie I contributed to...

    37. Creator Aaron Lum on January 18, 2015

      I understand the financial burden to send the DVDs out. How about sending a link to the movie to watch it? It now seems that every Tom, Dick and Harry has seen this movie but me, and the other supporters. It has been several years now...

    38. Creator Der Peter on January 12, 2015

      what about new shipping updates?

    39. Creator luciola on December 31, 2014

      I probably won't even watch the DVD, but condoning unmet promises is only encouraging more frauds on this community.

    40. Creator Bill Casti on December 6, 2014

      I don['t care about the gimmies. I contribute for the project, not what they're going to give me. Get a life, folks! The STORY here has always been what was the most important thing. Whether or not you get your videos or heated cushions or whatever your "reward" was is immaterial. If it takes freebies for you to contribute to promoting important love stories and other stuff, then you deserve to not get your stuff. There's more important things in life.

    41. Creator Bill Casti on December 6, 2014

      My address has changed. How do I get the new address to you?

    42. Creator David Hedison on December 4, 2014

      I had been waiting as well. Glad to see that I am not the only one feeling a little bit jaded and highly disappointed.

    43. Creator CHIEN LIANG CHE on October 20, 2014

      I wrote a message but no mail reply and got nothing. I am really disappointed...

    44. Creator Jonathan Allred on October 20, 2014

      Just got an email which reminded me of this project. I did get my DVD (albeit late, and after I could watch it on OWN or Netflix) and I was shocked to see they are still shipping things out. It's sad to see how poorly this was run. If I was still in some of your shoes I would be pissed as well. The only reason I can see that they are shipping 100 per week is due to not having the money for shipping (which is part of what the $384,375 was supposed to go to.

      Disappointed that people who backed this in support of the story, now are disappointed.

    45. Creator Mairead Heffernan on October 15, 2014

      Still waiting....
      I am always donating to Kickstarters and IndieGoGo campaigns and every single one bar this one have followed through with their promises. It's been over two years and I've had nothing from you guys at all. If others can follow through with their commitment, so can you. I am beyond angry about this!

    46. Creator Thomas Canty on October 10, 2014

      I donated at the $1K level and I have received nothing. Not even a phone call.

    47. Creator Ryan Thompson on October 2, 2014

      yay 2 years and still nothing.

    48. Creator Mara Copland on September 30, 2014

      Never got a DVD, anything. I've funded a lot of projects on Kickstarter/Indiegogo and this is the ONLY one to not give a crap about its backers. I have to say I'm incredibly disappointed with everyone behind-the-scenes. You dropped the ball. No updates since July. I hope you guys are disgusted with yourselves for not fulfilling your promises.

    49. Creator Gabriele Duffy on September 16, 2014

      Very disappointing!! Have been waiting patiently to receive the DVD. Don't even get a reply to my email queries. I don't think I'll support a Kickstarter project in the future.

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