Welcome to our Kickstarter campaign to raise money for our children's book Big Boys Cry with a focus on PREVENTION over CURE, aimed at 5+ boys and girls . There is still so much stigma attached to mental health and we need to take action far earlier to break down these stereotypical ideas that
BOYS HAVE TO BE TOUGH
BOYS DON’T CRY
CRYING IS FOR GIRLS!
We want to ingrain into children from a young age that it is OK for boys to cry at whatever age, whether they’re the toughest kid in school, they’re in the armed forces or they’ve got the biggest beard you’ve ever seen- it doesn’t make them silly or girly!
We want parents, aunts, uncles, teachers, older brothers & sisters, godparents (everybody!) to read this book to the special boys and girls in their lives and remind them that it’s OK to show emotion, but most importantly why it’s good to share with someone the thing that is bothering them.
Male suicide, is the single biggest killer of men under 45 in the UK. In your life time either you or someone you know and love will be affected by mental health.
A survey commissioned by the Mental Health Foundation found that not only are men far less likely than women to seek professional support, they are also less likely to disclose mental health problems to friends and family. This will make the journey for recovery much longer and potentially far worse...
We hope by educating children younger, we can start shifting gender stereotypes sooner and also encourage boys to seek help earlier.
Is this book just for boys?
Absolutely not! It is just as important for young girls to grow up not believing in gender stereotypes. We cannot break the stereotype of ‘what it means to be a man’ by just educating one sex.
Our dream is to have Big Boys Cry in schools across the UK (and the world for that matter!) to start educating and preventing boys from keeping their feelings to themselves. We want children to recognise that emotion is not a sign of weakness and that bravery comes with sharing. Big Boys Cry has also been analyzed by Child Psychologists at the University of Reading to ensure that we are articulating our message correctly.
Here are a couple of the statements that stood out to us by mental health charities who have read Big Boys Cry:
"As an organisation, CALM provides support for men at point of crisis with our free, confidential, and anonymous helpline and webchat. But we also campaign to challenge the outdated stereotypes of masculinity that often prevent men from seeking help when they need it. Big Boys Cry is an important tool and can help embed that vital message for boys in their early life, both in the home and school environment" CALM (Campaigning Against Living Miserably)
"Big Boys Cry gives a clear message to boys, girls and families that it is normal – and okay – to cry. Learning that everyone experiences a wide range of feelings is very important for young children and their mental wellbeing. Big Boys Cry will be a helpful addition to the library of those seeking to support children’s mental health.” Charlie Waller Memorial Trust
We did in fact get far with some publishers however we kept hitting the same road bumps. After a publisher had spent 6 months or so 'sitting on it', it was decided the book wasn't commercial enough and this to us is part of the problem; mental health needs to be made more commercial. It needs to be something that we talk about, that we educate future generations about from a young age. This has led to us self publishing and we are convinced there are people who believe in the power of PREVENTION over CURE in mental health and want to educate and destigmatise stereotypes.
We believe there are boys and men who have suffered with mental health who might wish they had a book similar to this one growing up. Mental illness can strike at any age as you grow up, however we want this book to lay the foundations for knowing its OK to express yourself and to stress the importance of sharing with someone how you're feeling.
From much searching we have found a great printing press who will print beautiful hard backed books of Big Boys Cry so we have a quality finished book which we can share with the world.
Behind the writing and illustrations:
The Writing: Charlotte Moncrieff is a mental health ambassador for a London based mental health charity. Charlotte’s desire to write a children’s mental health book stemmed from when she was conducting research in 2014, on how the media communicated mental health to audiences. Charlotte became aware of how much the media's influence was causing a knock on effect to those seeking recovery; in particular males.
Charlotte Moncrieff is also the founder of the Twenty Mile Club, an online platform inspiring unfulfilled twenty-something’s through entrepreneurship and passion projects. She is also training for her credentials in Business, Lifestyle and CBT coaching.
The Illustrations: Helena Maxwell is an illustrator and artist who is passionate about spreading mental health awareness. Helena has worked with Charlotte to produce the visuals for Big Boys Cry and Charlie Waller Memorial Trust have stated that the book is 'beautifully brought to life by Helena's illustrations'. Helena's hopes to show the next generation that it is OK to express their emotions and is keen to break the stereotypes that are classically associated with men. Helena has previously worked for clients such as The Sunday Times, Elbow Productions and Shortbook Publishers and you can find her website here.
We look forward to sharing our dream with you and hope you will jump at the chance to be a part of changing male stereotypes and the problems that this attributes to mental health today. Pledge for a first edition copy today!
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Risks and challenges
Delivering the books: A big issue with people who do Kickstart campaigns around publishing is whether they will actually deliver the books. We have already costed out all the shipping and printing costs within our target budget so we believe we will quickly be able to deliver the books once we hit our funding amount.Learn about accountability on Kickstarter
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