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For many, kissing dating goodbye meant saying "hello" to lifelong singleness. It is time to fix courtship.
For many, kissing dating goodbye meant saying "hello" to lifelong singleness. It is time to fix courtship.
For many, kissing dating goodbye meant saying "hello" to lifelong singleness. It is time to fix courtship.
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Courtship in Crisis by Thomas Umstattd Jr.

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We thought courtship was the answer to America's relationship problems. We were wrong. Courtship was fundamentally flawed.

Did you miss the Kickstarter?

No worries. Visit www.CourtshipInCrisis.com for updates and to buy a copy of the book (when it comes out).

Stretch Goals

We did it! Thank you so much for pushing us over 100%. We have a few exciting stretch goals.

$11,000: Book Launch Party

When the book officially releases, we will throw a launch party, complete with press invites: the whole deal. All backers (at any level) will be welcome to attend. 

This is different from the Kickstarter Party happening at the conclusion of the campaign. 

$12,500: Digital Small Group Discussion Guide

If we unlock this level, all backers will receive a PDF of the small group discussion guide. This be the perfect companion for anyone wanting to lead a discussion about dating and relationships in their church, school, or family.

$13,500: Q&A Webinar & Recording

If we unlock this stretch goal, all backers will be invited to join in on a backer-only Q&A Webinar. Backers will also receive an MP3 recording of the webinar.  

$15,000: Audiobook

This is the big kahuna. Several backers have requested that we make an audiobook version of Courtship in Crisis. Audiobook production is expensive. But if we can hit $15,000, we will have the funds to make the audiobook.

If we unlock this stretch goal, all backers at the $9 level or higher will receive a copy of the audiobook.

The Problem

America is facing an unprecedented "singleness epidemic." Fewer people are getting married each year, and the ones who do get married put marriage off later and later.

A few months ago, I wrote the blog post Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed in response to this alarming trend. I traced the problem back to the 1960s, and honed in on the culprit.

I used to believe courtship was the answer. Now I realize it is part of the problem.

The post went viral reaching over 1,000,000 pageviews in less than a month. As thousands of people shared their stories, a debate raged around the internet and in homes across the country. During it all I realized that I had a lot more to say on the topic.

People have been asking me for a more complete version that they can hand to a friend, parent or child.

So, I've decided to write a book to address this hurtful trend in our country and propose Traditional Dating as a practical alternative to courtship. The working title is Courtship in Crisis.

In short, there have been so many books advocating courtship, we need a book to counter them with practical real world advice.

The Book

Vision

The book is that it will be:

  • fun to read
  • inspiring
  • practical
  • hopeful
  • Biblical
  • relatively short

The foundation of the book will be the following blog posts:

Which means, if you disagreed with those posts, you will likely disagree with this book. If you agreed with most of the blog, but not all, you should like Courtship in Crisis since I will have more room to fully explain myself.

Outline

  • Chapter 1: Why Kissing Dating Goodbye Left Millions Single
  • Chapter 2: The Courtship Crisis: Where it Began
  • Chapter 3: Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed
  • Chapter 4: Getting Past Cooties and Making Friends
  • Chapter 5: Finding Your Courage
  • Chapter 6: Check the Gauges
  • Chapter 7: How to Find a Friend Worth Marrying
  • Chapter 8: Traditional Dating Explained
  • Chapter 9: Going Steady
  • Chapter 10: A Timeless Marriage

Appendix

  • Chapter 11: Answering Objections to Traditional Dating
  • Chapter 12: Practical Advice: Questions and Answers
  • Chapter 13: Parenting Your Children Towards Healthy Relationships

Budget


The Author

Thomas Umstattd Jr. is a former advocate of courtship. Now? Not so much.

He is a blogger, homeschool event speaker,  founder of PracticalCourtship.com, founding CEO of Author Media, co-host of the Novel Marketing Podcast and Marketing Director of Enclave Publishing.

The Rewards

The Ebook

Backers who choose a reward with "The Ebook" as one of the rewards will get a copy of the ebook in both Kindle and epub versions. 

The Paper Book

Backers who choose a book with "The Paper Book" as one of the rewards will get a paper copy of Courtship in Crisis shipped to them as soon as the book is released. 

Signed Paper Book

Backers who choose a reward with "Signed Paper Book" as one of the rewards will get a signed copy of Courtship in Crisis shipped to them as soon as the book is released.

Launch Team

Backers who choose a reward with "Launch Team" as one of the rewards will get:

  • Early access to the manuscript along with opportunities to give feedback.
  • Access to the private Launch Team Facebook Group,
  • A printed "thank you" in the book,
  • A signed paper copy
  • A copy of the ebook.

The Family Pack

  • Early access to the manuscript along with opportunities to give feedback
  • Access to the private Launch Team Facebook Group
  • A printed "thank you" in the book
  • A signed paper copy of the book 
  • Four unsigned copies to share .
  • A copy of the ebook 

The Homeschool Pack

  • Early access to the manuscript along with opportunities to give feedback 
  • Access to the private Launch Team Facebook Group
  • A printed "thank you" in the book
  • A signed paper copy of the book
  • Six unsigned copies to share.
  • A copy of the ebook

The Church Pack

  • Early access to the manuscript along with opportunities to give feedback
  • Access to the private Launch Team Facebook Group (optional)
  • A printed "thank you" in the book (optional)
  • A signed paper copy of the book (optional)
  • Nine unsigned copies to share.
  • A copy of the ebook

Share Your Story Skype Call

Backers who choose a reward with "Share Your Story Skype Call" will get the chance to give Thomas a piece of your mind. We are looking for stories to include in the book. While we can't promise that your story will make it into the book, we do promise to listen intently and with an open mind.

Youth Group Skype Talk

Backers who choose this reward will can have Thomas Umstattd "Skype in" to their youth group (or school group, parents group, etc) to either present his Courtship in Crisis talk, answer questions from the group, or both. 

Live Talk at Your Church or Youth Group

Bring Thomas into your church or youth group to present his talk on Courtship in Crisis live. Travel and lodging are extra if the event is outside of Texas.

Risks and challenges

This is not my first Kickstarter campaign, but this is my first book. The biggest risk is that we will miss our deadline. Our goal is to have the ebook finished by June 1. This is an ambitious goal. That said, I've worked on multiple crowdfunding campaigns and they have all shipped on time.

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