The first & only guide to making the most of married life before (or without) kids. Read more
This project's funding goal was not reached on December 22, 2012.
About this project
Whether you don’t have kids yet or never will, this is your fun & practical guide to making the most of life as a twosome.
We’re Katelyn & Cory. We created DINKlife, the first and only lifestyle resource and community for DINKs. For those of you who don't know, DINK stands for Dual Income No Kids. The phrase was first coined in the 1980s along with the rise of the yuppie. While yuppies have come and gone, DINKs are here to stay and today, are a thriving demographic.
When we met back in 2008, we knew instantly that we wanted different things from our life as a twosome. We watched as our friends got married, had children and slowly disappeared into the vortex of parenthood.
We went to baby showers and wished the expecting parents well but with each encounter,the process felt more alien. The collective ‘ooh’ing and ‘aah’ing became a drag. While our old friends discussed sleepless nights and the price of babysitters, we wanted to talk about travel, movies and cool restaurants. And we didn’t want to feel guilty for doing so.
Friday nights became a particularly odd predicament. Friends that had become parents didn't have the freedom to enjoy an end of week drink. While our single friends were available, they wanted a very different kind of Friday night.
We realized quickly that our married friends with kids and our single friends without kids were both in distinctive life phases that had nothing in common with our life as a couple without kids.
We had no desire to spend our evenings in clubs searching for that elusive hook up. We already had each other. Nor did we relish the thought of sitting at a dinner table while a friend’s toddler flicked tomato sauce at us.
We were somewhere in the middle. At this point, we weren't sure what we were, we just knew were different and we wanted to find like-minded people. We knew for sure that there were more people in the world like us and it was up to us to find them.
DINKlife is a passion project we started in 2010, with a mission to help other Double Income No Kids couples make the most of life as a twosome with practical information, discount deals, and adult-friendly events.
Why are we writing this book?
Over the last year we’ve heard from thousands of couples and published hundreds of articles on the topics couples without kids care about most – the opportunities & pitfalls of the lifestyle, travel, love & sex, money, home & pets, etc – and connected these couples with new friends and activities to enjoy life to its fullest.
These couples are growing as individuals through life experience and travel, deepening their love and communication with each other, and establishing the career and financial foundations for future success, and finding doing so to be better for them as individuals, as a couple and for their future children.
But with 30M couples without kids in the US, and over 130M globally, there are so many couples yet hear this message and to access this unique resource. Millions of couples are going through this time in their life without putting conscious thought into decisions around children, and without awareness of resources to help them make the most of NOW.
Why is the book so important in 2012?
Due to changing priorities, economic conditions and access to birth control, couples are waiting longer to have children while many more are choosing not to have kids at all.
- 2011 US Census declared a “delayer boom” due to the rising population of couples having kids at an older age
- Couples are married 5+ yrs on avg. before kids vs. <2 in 1980
- 1 in 5 women will not have children today vs. 1 in 10 in 1970
- China recently added “DINK” to their dictionary and The Times of India added a Double Income No Kids section to their publication
- 2011 Canadian Census showed more couples WITHOUT kids than WITH kids for the first time in history
YET –NO ROADMAP FOR LIFE AS A COUPLE WITHOUT KIDS EXISTS
Go to any bookstore and you'll see that we are inundated with resources for the wedding, pregnancy and child rearing phases of life. But what about the couples who are enjoying life without kids? This life-stage is almost completely ignored. The Dual Income No Kids Experience* is here to fill that gap.
The Dual Income No Kids Experience will inspire couples to treat their twosome years as precious whether those years are a stopgap on the path to parenthood or if they're a life-long lifestyle choice. It's an entertaining and practical guide for a whole host of twosome topics such as travel, love, sex, finances and friendships. Most importantly this book recognizes that DINKs are a valid demographic and it's time for the world to stand up and take notice.
- Tips & tricks from DINK writers
- Interviews with DINKs and childfree experts
- Specific “bucket list” items submitted by DINKs
- DINK insights from DINKlife.com discussions
- Facts & figures from Census and other sources
- Checklist pages to add your own bucket lists
The Dual Income No Kids Experience is a clever and practical marriage guide for married couples, for newlyweds, and for child less and childfree couples
- Why this book is so relevant in 2012 - historic trends by the numbers
- Why are couples waiting longer, or not having kids at all
- Our story
- DINK and Childfree role models
- The opportunities of this life-stage and how to take advantage of them
- The pitfalls of this life-stage and how to avoid them
- The Bucket List – Must-dos for couples without kids (Kids or No Kids Decision, Travel, Money, Career, Spirituality, Sex, Home & pets
We are fundraising to cover the basic hard costs needed to create an awesome book: creative design, editing/proofing, publishing/type-setting setup, and imagery.
If you are able to, please pledge to see that this project can become a reality. If you’re unable to pledge or in addition to your financial contribution, you can help spread the word!
Here are four ways you can help let others know about this project:
- Email your friends asking them to check out this Kickstarter page and www.dinklife.com
- Share this Kickstarter page on your Facebook wall or Twitter
- You can also share/repost our video, which you can find here
- You can also “like” us on Facebook at DINKlifestyle
Any additional questions or comments, feel free to contact me at: email@example.com
Follow DINKlife on Twitter @dinklife. Thank you so much for your support!
“For some couples, having kids early in their marriage is like beginning a meal with dessert - say a tiramisu or, perhaps more appropriately, an upside-down cake. It may be a wonderful experience, but there's a good chance it's going to ruin your appetite. For each other. Waiting a few years means you'll have already savored and enjoyed the main course together. And there's always the possibility that the banquet that is your marriage is so satisfying you won't feel compelled to have dessert.” Dan B, DINKlife member (danborengasser.com)
Risks and challenges
While we have lots of great content from members and writers on DINKlife.com, this book is not simply a binded print-out of the site. We're creating new original content, and collaborating with many partners to make something really fun, visual, and practical. This collaboration, and our commitment to deliver something really awesome, could result in delays to its completion. We will do all we can to meet the ship dates listed above.
As typical with a creative project, the title and imagery above may change as the book's true path reveals itself. While we don't expect anything significant, the contents as we now list them may change slightly as we iterate with DINKs and decide on the most valuable topics - we DINKs are too busy traveling, wining/dining, and having fun to deal with superfluous information, so only the best stuff will do!Learn about accountability on Kickstarter
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