A story of the humanity behind all sides of the highly politicized personal issue of gay marriage.
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About the Film
The only way really to understand your position and its worth is to understand the opposite. That doesn’t mean the crazy guy on the radio who is spewing hate, it means the decent human truths of all the people who feel the need to listen to that guy. You are connected to those people. They’re connected to him. You can’t get away from it. - Joss Whedon.
In November of 2011, a friend of mine told me about an upcoming amendment vote to the constitution of her home state of North Carolina. The amendment, called "The Marriage Amendment" or "Amendment One" (depending on who you asked), would restrict legally recognized unions to marriage between one man and one woman.
As someone who lives in New York City, where gay marriage is legal, it was hard for me to believe that the kind of amendment was even on the table. But after doing some research, I realized that 30 states in the country already had constitutional amendments like this, and that they were all voted in by the people. I was shocked by this, and couldn't understand why people would want to vote against relationships like mine.
But instead of getting angry about it, I became curious about what motivated people to vote for these amendments. I am of course aware of the hugh divide in this country over gay marriage, and I know that there are millions of people who are against it. Even if many of us believe that people shouldn't vote against gay rights, it doesn't change the fact that they do. Knowing in my heart that I am a real, moral human being and not just an evil sexual outlaw, I began to think that maybe the "other side" was misunderstood as well. And that maybe the mutual misunderstanding of both sides was dividing us even more.
I began to think back to conversations I had witnessed between people on opposing sides of this issue, and all that came to mind was yelling and name calling. I understand, of course, that this is a very personal and heated issue, so it's easy to get frustrated and angry. But I also realized that nothing really ever came from these back and forth screaming matches. It only drove both sides further and further apart.
So I took a step back and remembered what this issue is really about, and why I care so much about it in the first place. It's not about the good guys vs. the bad guys. It's not about two-dimensional cardboard cutouts. It's about real people, with real lives, real upbringings, real dreams, real fears, real experiences.
So I decided to follow my friend down to North Carolina and meet people on both sides of this issue, and find out where they were genuinely coming from on a human level, so that I could gain a better understanding. Understanding doesn't mean agreeing, or losing ourselves to the "other side." It means sitting down with a person, learning about their lives, and gaining more perspective. Really, what's the harm in that?
I raised money on Kickstarter (http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/906648225/hear-our-stories-a-documentary-about-love-and-equa) and spent the spring of 2012 getting to know the people of North Carolina as they counted down to the amendment vote on May 8th.
After meeting dozens of people and acquiring over 200 hours of footage, I am thrilled to finally be able to share these amazing stories with the world.
I've edited all of the footage into a feature film, but we need finishing funds to polish the film, and promote it once it's complete.
Why We're Raising Money
Here is a complete list of what the Kickstarter money will go towards:
- Color correction
- Sound mixing
- Voiceover recording
- Motion graphics
- Editing consultant
- Festival submissions/ travel
- Community screenings/ travel
- Posters, postcards, press kits, and other promotional materials
- DVD production
- Music rights
- Shipping costs
- Copyright/ trademark fees
- Stipend for key personnel
- Office space
- Kickstarter and Amazon fees
Reception So Far
We are thrilled to see that there is an audience for this film, and that people are eager to see the finished product.
A Note on Backer Rewards
When I launched the first Kickstarter for this film, I underestimated how long a project like this would take, so months passed after my estimated delivery deadlines, and I was still hard at work completing the film. This time around, I am overstimating the delivery date, just to be safe.
For those of you who donated to the first Kickstarter, you made all of this possible, and I'm not expecting you to back the second Kickstarter, and you will of course get all the rewards you were promised once the film is completely done. However, if you would like to donate or share this link with friends, you are of course more than welcome to.
For more info on the film, visit TipJarFilms.com/one
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Risks and challenges Learn about accountability on Kickstarter
A big obstacle during production was finding people who support the amendment to talk to us on camera (remember: supporting the amendment is supporting marriage as only between a man and a woman). Eventually we were able to show people our integrity and form bonds with people on all sides of the issue.
Throughout the whole process, the biggest obstacle was getting the film done in a timely manner. It is an enormous undertaking, and I'm only one person, so it has taken longer than I, and others, have expected. But this is something that I am extremely passionate about, and I will see it through to the end.
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