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Keith MillerBy Keith Miller
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Keith MillerBy Keith Miller
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ORDER Love Under Repair at www.LoveUnderRepair.com

Available February 14th, 2015 on Amazon.
Available February 14th, 2015 on Amazon.

A Book to Make Getting Couples Therapy Un-confusing 

A few years ago, I found myself to be an unwitting guinea pig of the same kind of medicine I normally dispense to my clients as a couples therapist. My wife and I found ourselves thrust into an unexpected no-man's-land of confusing choices about how to find the right therapist for our situation. I was stunned by the lack of uniformity in the way couples therapy is advertised and delivered. Walk into any bookstore and you'll find an armful of helpful books with relationship advice, but none with instructions about how to successfully navigate the maze of options you face when choosing a couples therapist.

I set out to write a book that would be a comprehensive guide to anyone seeking clarity about how to make the most of couples therapy. The result is Love Under Repair: How to Save Your Marriage and Survive Couples Therapy. (Click the link to download the introduction and chapter one, 30 pages.) 

Plenty of books give relationship advice, but there are none that guide you start-to-finish through the process of getting professional couples therapy.
Plenty of books give relationship advice, but there are none that guide you start-to-finish through the process of getting professional couples therapy.

About Kickstarter: Raise $25,000 or I get $0  

Kickstarter is an all-or-nothing crowdfunding tool which allows entrepreneurs and self-publishers like myself to raise funds for our projects prior to the manufacturing and retail stages. If I don't reach my funding goal of $25,000 in pledges before the end of my 30-day campaign, none of my sponsor's credit cards will be charged and I won't receive a penny. I'm depending on your help to spread the word about this project! 

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A Movement to Educate Couples: We Can Love Good 

So many couples today are in need of professional help for their relationship but don't know where to begin. The failure rate of marriage in America is staggering--about 50% of all marriages will end in divorce. I believe divorce has such a crippling effect on families not for lack of a cure but because couples are afraid of or misinformed about couples therapy. Unfortunately, many people know a couple that has a horror story from going to couples therapy; or you know a couple that never got the help they needed. I want to start a movement to educate couples in this country with a clear message: There's been a revolution in how couples therapy is done, one that stacks the odds well in favor of successfully repairing love's otherwise mysterious ailments.

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Couples Therapy Renaissance


“No one—not rock stars, not professional athletes, not software billionaires, and not even geniuses—ever makes it alone.”

―Malcolm Gladwell, Outliers: The Story of Success

My book, Love Under Repair, provides a compelling summary of the most recent developments in the science of the brain that have overturned psychology's historic bent toward individualism and self-fulfillment and replaced it with a more sustainable ethos that acknowledges our biological need to have secure, intimate relationships throughout our life. The book showcases three leading brands of so-called attachment-based couples therapy—Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, Imago Relationship Therapy, and the Gottman Method couples therapy—and provides practical must-have knowledge for anyone remotely considering couples therapy. 

I began research for Love Under Repair by visiting Seattle, home of the Gottman Institute's "love lab" at the University of Washington, and home of world's very first Starbucks.
I began research for Love Under Repair by visiting Seattle, home of the Gottman Institute's "love lab" at the University of Washington, and home of world's very first Starbucks.

Yeah, but does it work in real life? 

I've read dozens of marriage self-help books and always wondered if the experts actually used their own methods, which seem almost magical in print. Then after going through my own marriage crisis I knew how important it would be to include this angle and detail how my personal struggles in marriage really put the advice in the book to the test. 

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Practical Advice to Help Couples Choose the Right Therapist

Throughout the book, I weave colorful vignettes of real couples and provide self-assessment tools to help you and your partner find the couples therapy that is the best match for you. 

The book contains dozens of tips to take the guesswork and stress out of the inherently nerve-wracking task of finding a good couples therapist. I share vital details on such topics as:

  • How each of the three most popular brands of couples therapy work
  • How to shop for the right therapist for your situation
  • How much couples therapy really costs
  • How to use health insurance for couples therapy
  • Three alternatives to couples therapy
  • What to ask a therapist before you begin therapy 

My Qualifications for Writing this Book

I'm a clinical social worker practicing in mental health and psychotherapy for twelve years. I have advanced certifications in attachment-based couples therapies such as Imago Relationship Therapy and Internal Family Systems Therapy. In 2007, I founded my own private practice, Keith Miller & Associates Counseling. 

These are some of the fabulous counselors on my staff. My practice specializes in the kind of approach to helping couples I wrote about in Love Under Repair--attachment based couples therapy. We have offices in Washington, DC and Maryland.
These are some of the fabulous counselors on my staff. My practice specializes in the kind of approach to helping couples I wrote about in Love Under Repair--attachment based couples therapy. We have offices in Washington, DC and Maryland.

 Advanced Praise for Love Under Repair

“Keith Miller does something unique for a book by a professional marriage therapist–he reveals his own marital struggles and endears you to him as he presents a clear guide to choosing a couples therapy that is safe and effective. His storytelling makes the many advances in attachment theory and brain science that he presents easy to relate to and understand. Love Under Repair is a practical tool that every therapist and couple should have within reach.”

Harville Hendrix PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, authors of the New York Times best-selling books Getting the Love You Want and Making Marriage Simple.

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“This one-of-a-kind book is a valuable consumers guide to the world of marriage counseling. Miller walks along-side you as the reader, sharing his own story, as he sheds light on a type of help that most couples seek out blindly rather than with knowledge and insight. This book will increase your confidence in making one of the most important decisions couples make–how to choose a good marriage counselor.”

William J. Doherty, PhD, Director of the Minnesota Couples on the Brink Project at the University of Minnesota and author of Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart.

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Love Under Repair is an important addition to our understanding of attachment-based couples therapy, helping potential clients choose the therapy model that speaks to them. Keith Miller writes in a voice that is both thoughtful, accessible and  extremely engaging. You won’t find a better book for couples considering therapy.”

Jette Simon, Director of Washington DC Training Institute for Couples

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“Never has it been more important—even urgent—to know how to form relationships that flourish. At a time when we are surrounded by the devastation of divorce and cynicism about marriage in general, we need help more than ever. Keith Miller provides authoritative guidance with disarming honesty and wit. In Love Under Repair, the average person can learn about the unique qualities of attachment-based couples therapy and make an informed decision about how to get quality professional relationship help. Keith’s years of experience with this subject are evident from the book’s clear instructions and his command of the emotional landscape inside of marriage. Well written; scientifically robust; easily accessible. If you want a better relationship and need help, look no further.”

Curt Thompson, M.D., author of Anatomy of the Soul: Surprising Connections Between Neuroscience and Spiritual Practices That Can Transform Your Life and Relationships

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I’ve known Keith Miller as the successful founder of Keith Miller & Associates Counseling, and it’s no surprise that he’s written a terrific book to help sort out the confusing maze of choices couples face when finding a therapist. With compassion, sensitivity and humor, Keith serves as a hands-on guide to help couples find the best path to navigate through their unique challenges. What is particularly useful in Love Under Repair is how Keith skillfully draws upon his own personal history as well as over a decade of clinical experience working with couples in crisis. Highly recommended as a first crucial step for couples wanting to make the best choices and a must-read for any professional that supports couples in distress. 

Joe Bavonese, PhD
Director and Founder of Relationship Institute

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“So many theories, so many practitioners, and so many marriages in pain and turmoil.  How do you and your partner find your way to the counselor your relationship deserves?  Keith Miller courageously and brilliantly answers that question in his state-of-the-art book, Love Under Repair. Whether explaining theories, debunking myths, or creating the questions that will help you identify the counselors that will work best for you, Keith offers the definitive guide to the world of couples therapy.  Allow his warmth, wit and thorough grasp of this often intimidating world to lead you to the path that will bring your marriage home.

Deborah Ross, LPCFormer President, Mid-Atlantic Association for Imago Relationship Therapists

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Love Under Repair is a very valuable book for couples who need help with their relationship. It’s a wonderful introduction to couples therapy, which explains how it can help your troubled marriage and how to choose the best form of couples therapy for you. Keith Miller’s writing is clear and easy to relate to, especially the many stories of couples’ journeys in therapy.”

Jay Earley, PhD, author of Self-Therapy, creator of Self-Therapy Journey

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Keith’s gift to couples everywhere is his book, Love Under Repair. It demystifies the process of couples therapy so you can know there’s hope when you’re feeling most vulnerable. Equally important is Keith’s clear and concise explanation of how to find a couples therapist who can help you communicate effectively and lovingly with your partner, whether you’re just starting out or have been married for years. Couples at all stages of their relationship can make informed choices about who to contact and what to expect from the best investment you can make in your relationship.

Jennifer Kogan, MSW, LICSW
Founder, DCTherapistConnect.com

Rewards

LoveGood ceramic mug - reward for $50 donation or higher (cappuccino not included!)
LoveGood ceramic mug - reward for $50 donation or higher (cappuccino not included!)
LoveGood 100% cotton t-shirt - reward for $60 donation or higher
LoveGood 100% cotton t-shirt - reward for $60 donation or higher

 THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT!

Risks and challenges

A big risk with self-publishing a book is that many self-published books lack the high quality standards of books produced by major publishing houses. After careful research that included taking a publishing course at Harvard Medical School, I decided to self-publish my book instead of accepting a book deal from a publisher. It's meant I've had a LOT more work on my plate but it's been incredibly rewarding to retain complete control over the direction of the project.

My goal has always been to invest the substantial time and money needed to make Love Under Repair as good or better in quality than a traditionally published book. By many standards I believe I've met this goal...but I need your donation especially now to make this book a reality and help me make it available to couples everywhere.

By the time the book is ready to print, it will have gone through the hands of four professional editors (three of whom are a team I hired through the prestigious Kirkus Media author services company). I'm confident that I've assembled a team of the highest-quality professionals to support me in writing, publishing, and launching Love Under Repair.

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