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By Kathy McEnery
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Getting divorced shouldn't have to suck!  This book explores all the ways to take the pain, heartbreak, frustration, embarrassment, shame, suffering, and humiliation of your divorce and kick it to the curb (just like you did to that insufferable twit you were married to).  

When I was getting divorced in 2004, it seemed like everywhere I went I saw glossy magazine "style guides" -- what to wear, how to decorate, what music to play at the party -- for every other phase of a woman's life:  college, your first apartment, wedding, baby, on and on!  I felt left out. Where was the Style Guide to Divorce?  I decided to write it.  Every time I felt like bad, I'd make myself feel better by writing another chapter. And eventually I had a whole book.  Here's the proposed cover art:

The Cover is Going to Look Like This
The Cover is Going to Look Like This

(Who's Katie?  It's me -- at first, I felt too shy to use my own name, and made up a cool alter ego, but now that the book is going to be published I feel confident to use my real name).

I know that there are other divorce books and blogs and heck, even TV shows out there, but mine is unique. It's a fast and funny read, and you're going to want to give a copy to a girlfriend or sister. The humor is so light-hearted I think you could give it as a bridal shower gift!

Here are some of the chapter headings:

  • The History of Divorce Style
  • Divorce Style at Home: What to Do with 50% of the Furniture
  • Creativity: Silk Purses, Sows’ Ears, & His Golf Clubs
  • The Fashionable Litigant: Boots for Kicking Some Legal @#%!
  • Exercise: Strong Body, Clear Mind, Open Heart 
  • Your Spirituality: The Patron Saints of Divorce 
  • Divorce Travel: Go to Your Happy Place
  • The Five Stages of Divorce
  • Astrology: Your Divorce Horoscope
  • Wash That Man Right Out of Your Hair: Rituals for Moving On

Working on this project made me laugh during some pretty difficult days. It did make my friends look at me strangely.  Some even scolded me for playing up the humor and accused me of not taking it seriously, or even of not "moving on."   

But I was taking it seriously.  I wanted to see my divorce as a positive choice, not something that just had to be endured.  Oh, and I made these embroidered hand-towels.  Want one?  Make a contribution to my project of any size and I'll send you the pattern.  

How I channeled my energy. . .
How I channeled my energy. . .

My budget is $10,000 which includes costs for book designer, layout, stock photos from iStock, publishing and marketing on Lulu, and that includes an ISBN and an ebook, plus the cost of Kickstarter expenses and rewards.  If I go above my goal, I'll be able to print more copies, and make upgrades to the book, like type of paper or cover, and get more help marketing.

My target audience is women (sorry, guys.)  My niche target audience is female lawyers, and divorce attorneys.  I plan on taking the book to their professional conferences and also promote the book at regional independent book stores.

As I say in my rewards, I'm including a divorce-themed throw pillow as one of the rewards.  It looks like this:  

Pillow by artist Janiece Senn
Pillow by artist Janiece Senn

Major supporters will be my guests here in Hot Springs, Montana to take in the local sights and soak in the mineral waters.  This is a tiny town and a funky place.  It has been the perfect creative spot for me to get this project moving forward.  I hope you can come visit sometime!

Please support this project!  Thanks!

Risks and challenges

I'm a small-town country lawyer and sometimes I travel 100 miles in a day to go to a court hearing or visit a client (I make house calls). So it's possible that if a production delay comes up, I might not be able to address it right away.

I'm a pretty good communicator, so I would definitely keep supporters updated on how things are going. You know those people who hate asking for help? That's me, but I'm learning to set that aside. I'd rather share this accomplishment with a lot of people than try to do it all myself and fail. So I am open to advice from my community, and that means you, Kickstarter supporters.

I've been trying to think ahead not just of the potential problems, but also about the people I know who might be able to help me with them once they come up. Friends who are editors, marketing gurus, crowdfunding experts, a friend who owns a mail distribution company -- I've reached out to them all and gotten them on board with what they can do to help.

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