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By Carmen Davailus Buck
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Please support "Love Still Lives Here" — a book of powerful love-based stories and photographs demonstrating the devotion of families and loved ones impacted by dementia. With your help, this book will reach the hands of thousands of families struggling with grief and loss that often accompanies this illness.

Why this Project, Love Still Lives Here

The older I got the more I wondered about the legacy I would leave the world. I was a holistic nurse practitioner in a busy neurology clinic caring for people with dementia and their families. I didn't have a lot to offer by way of medications, but I had attention, kindness, and my presence. The majority of my 37 years of nursing was spent caring for the elderly and those with dementia. My patients and their families comfortably shared their stories, their worries and the darkest moments of their lives. I listened with awe. The situations were often unimaginable yet the love and devotion were palpable. I often thought that in this time more than ever, their inspirational stories needed to be shared. After years of being in reverence of my patients, I realized these so rarely heard stories of love and devotion in the face of such fear would be shared with the world, and I would help to make that happen.

What is Love Still Lives Here really about?

 

Mary is a loving mother caring for her 2 sons, both in their 40s, with Alzheimer's Disease.  She tells us how faith and prayer keep her heart filled with gratitude.
Mary is a loving mother caring for her 2 sons, both in their 40s, with Alzheimer's Disease. She tells us how faith and prayer keep her heart filled with gratitude.

 

Bill is a former banker who reminds us of what is really important.  His simple perspective on life is profoundly inspiring!
Bill is a former banker who reminds us of what is really important. His simple perspective on life is profoundly inspiring!

 

Love Still Lives Here is a project/book about families living with dementia filled with their stories, lessons and beautiful photographs of every day life. Eleven people with dementia and/or their families shared their stories. Their stories range from when they first learned that they or their loved one had dementia to how they manage day to day. They discuss the difficult decisions, their greatest joys and their darkest nights. Love Still Lives Here is about the many expressions of love and will certainly entertain, inspire and open your heart.

Smart, successful and ever the family Matriarch.  Meet Juanita!
Smart, successful and ever the family Matriarch. Meet Juanita!

 

 I went to each family’s private home and a few facilities in the central Texas, USA area for the interviews and photos.

Vicky promised her father that she would always have his back.  Learn how kept her promise even when faced with unbearable decisions, and how she learned to accept what she never thought she could.
Vicky promised her father that she would always have his back. Learn how kept her promise even when faced with unbearable decisions, and how she learned to accept what she never thought she could.

 

Interestingly, as I started to organize the stories, I realized that each family had a particular theme, and a spiritual lesson to describe. Some of these are hope, humor, trust, faith, meaning, forgiveness, transcendence and control. The stories in Love Still Lives Here will inspire us to be better human beings, and their experiences will gently guide us toward our own healing.

Where Will Your Donation Go?

My Gifts to the Families- They opened their homes and their hearts to me for this project.  I spent at least 2 hours with each family.  They will each receive a copy of the book along with a special dedication.  I took a variety of photographs of each family.  How can we possible put a cost to the emotional value of the photographs to the families?  I plan to give them each several matted 8X10 professionally printed images as well as an album that I've designed for them. 

A note about me: This project has been 100% self funded. I also donate my time, talent, and hundreds of hours to Alzheimer's Texas, to local memory and assisted care facilities, and a variety of non profit businesses that would otherwise not have photography.

Your donations help me to continue to donate my time and talent to important organizations like the Alzheimer's TX and other dementia organizations.  

Editing- even good writers need editing help to make sure the message is clear.  The messages in this book are so important, so I am hiring an editor. This will cost between $2000-$5000.

Publishing- The book will be self published and there are plenty of costs (approximately $7000) that go with that.  

Video-A colleague (Forever Lola Photography) created the video for this Kickstarter Project with me , attended one of my photoshoots and interviews and gave me a huge discount. I would like to pay her what it is worth.

Promotion- It’s been 8 months since I left my nurse practitioner career and focused full time on writing and photography. To help build my platform, I blog regularly, publish articles in nursing magazines, speak on podcasts, continue to build my photography business, and completed all family interviews and photos for the book.   As I mentioned, a lot of time goes into getting the word out about the book so that people will know about it.  I continue to build my platform.  

Risks and challenges

Clearly this is a time intensive project. What is the timeline?

Great news! I have almost completed the writing, and will be sending chapters to the editor for more tweaking. The manuscript will go through copy editing (grammar...) and content editing. I want their beautiful messages to be clear. I expect this process to be done by January 2017 and then it'll be sent to the publisher. I will gift the matted photographs to the families and hopefully include an album for them.

Once it gets to the publisher, a cover will be designed and lots of other details. We expect it to be on the bookshelf in the Spring of 2017.

I have concerns about mailing the book out in a timely fashion, and I'll certainly search for some volunteer help.

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    She Loves You!

    Thank you! You'll get a 20 min group Zoom conversation with the author and others to talk about the book and whatever else comes up. You'll also find your name and dedication on the 'Thank you' page of my book. You'll receive a copy of the paperback book. Don't forget to 'like' my Love Still Lives Here Facebook page so you'll see the special 'shout out' coming your way!

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    Will You Still Love Me When I'm 64

    Thank you! This is a great one! The next time you plan a trip to Austin, TX, let us know and we'll plan a special photo session for you and you'll get 30 of your top images. Then you and a friend will join our team for lunch. So. Much. Fun!! Bring your book to get autographed. You'll get a 30 min private Zoom conversation with the author to talk about the book and whatever else comes up. You'll also find your name and dedication on the 'Thank you' page of my book. You'll receive a copy of the paperback book. Don't forget to 'like' my Love Still Lives Here Facebook page so you'll see the special 'shout out' coming your way!

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