About this project
“I think making art and making babies are about optimism.” -Margie
Behind the domestic curtain of motherhood, where the creative impulse can flourish or languish, are four women determined to make a go of it. Filmed over seven years, Lost In Living, confronts the contradictions inherent in personal ambition and self-sacrifice, female friendship and mental isolation, big projects and dirty dishes. The complex realities of family life unfold in this documentary film about the messy intersection of motherhood and artistic expression.
Lost In Living is a personal film that has a broad social message: motherhood is an endurance test that never ends. This film portrays four women who reveal their unapologetic, unfiltered revelations about how they parent and how they create. The obstacles and rewards, the fear and the glory are all here within two generations of women.
As I approached age 40 it dawned on me that if I was going to have a child I had better hop to it. And yet the fear of what I was going to give up stopped me in my tracks. Could I still make art? Would I give up everything for my child? Would I resent the child? Was there real life as a mother? All these fears swirled in my brain along with this weirdly intense desire to go for it. So I tossed my birth control pills and informed my husband I was finally ready. Then I had a miscarriage. Which made me want a child even more. Two weeks after my mother's death I finally got pregnant with my lovely daughter.
There is no doubting I fell madly and deeply in love with my kid but at times I also felt bored, lonely and afraid. How was I going to be a thriving, creative person when I had nights I barely slept and someone to care for who was too small to understand "mom is working." I had to ask myself the question, “Where is the life I have lost in living?”
So I set out to find women who were experiencing the same things and who could also offer advice and experience. And that is how Lost In Living began. I followed four women for seven years, two of whom were pregnant when I met them and also best friends and two who were from an older generation with grown children. Their stories explore parenting expectations and choices, friendship, marriage, divorce, the monotony of domestic routines and most importantly how we all struggle with the balance of family commitment and personal work.
This film will have a broad impact on communities everywhere if we can raise the funds to do the outreach to get it out there. A mother’s work both as a parent and as an artist is too often dismissed. Mothers have at their fingertips the knowledge and experience of hard work, the inspiration of new life, the hard lessons of setting an example and the certainty of constant failure and resilience. Their contributions as mothers and as creative beings are celebrated in this film.
How Your Money Will Help:
Your support will help me finish the film and allow me to spread the story of four brave women doing the most demanding and least compensated job ever – mothering – while also making art. As these women give voice to their greatest vulnerabilities, desires and personal feelings, the viewer sees life as it unfolds.
If you are able to contribute financially we have amazing incentives to the right. The four women in the film have also contributed original artwork as rewards in the $100 category. If you can spread the word about our Kickstarter campaign to your friends, on Facebook, twitter, to strangers on the street, we would be eternally grateful.
Here’s a breakdown of how we plan to use the funds:
• Pay for Editor for two more months.
• Pay for Composer, sound design and mix.
• Pay for the creation of an Educational Guide to accompany the film to schools, universities and non-profit womens’ and artists’ organizations. The Educational Guide will also be made available as a free download from the website.
• Pay to update the website.
Lost In Living depicts a universal struggle everyone can relate to. All parents can understand the challenges of maintaining self and focus while doing the most important job of all - raising children. With your participation we can complete this film and get it to audiences who will connect and learn about women who reflect their own lives.
Lost In Living is a sure bet:
This project was filmed over seven years. That is a serious commitment to an important story, to the subjects in the film and to my vision. I now have a rough-cut of the film and I am determined to see it to completion. When you have spent as many years as I have on one project, you don’t give up, ever.
How Kickstarter works:
Kickstarter is a new way to fund creative ideas and ambitious endeavors. Kickstarter is powered by a unique all-or-nothing funding method where projects must be fully-funded or no money changes hands. In other words, if we don’t raise our goal of $5,000, we lose everything. Once we have reached our goal we will contact you to get your address and then we will start working on getting those amazing incentives to you!
Can we exceed our goal?
Yes, and we need to. We are starting with $5,000 on Kickstarter because we think with the all-or-nothing approach we can raise that amount. But, frankly, our budget is three times that, especially if we want to spread the message of the film as far and wide as possible. Still, every little bit counts and will be so helpful and appreciated.
What if we don’t reach our goal?
If funding fails, all pledges are canceled and that’s that. Your card is not charged, it’s like nothing ever happened. We hope that doesn’t happen! Those 30 days will fly by, please contribute today!
Can you donate from outside of the United States?
Yes! Just click on the Amazon Payment Button and you will see that you can pay with a credit card from any country. But you must finish the Amazon checkout process for your pledge to be recorded. If you have any problems please contact us.
Will you ship my reward(s) to an international address?
Yes, please add $10 to your pledge and it will cover the postage to ship all your reward items.
Can I increase my pledge once it’s been made?
YES! Once you donate to our campaign, you may want to change your incentive reward to a different one, or increase your pledge amount. To do so, go to Kickstarter and sign in. If you go to our campaign page, the green “Back This Project” button has been replaced with a blue “Manage Your Donation” button. Click it and you can enter a new amount, or choose a new incentive.
Can I use Paypal and will my donation be tax deductible?
Kickstarter does not allow pledges with Paypal nor are the Kickstarter contributions tax deductible. If you would prefer to participate and pledge with Paypal and qualify for a tax deduction please go to the website here:
Please note that your pledge will not be added to the Kickstarter totals, but it will be treated the same by us and it will be eligible for incentive rewards.
Want to help but can’t donate?
Become an Outreach Partner. Spread the word about the film in your community and receive a special Outreach Partner credit on our website and in the final credits of the film. We’d love to discuss partnering with you, your organization, your community to help get the word out about the film. Please contact us and we’ll make it happen.
And of course we need your help broadcasting the Kickstarter campaign. Facebook it, Tweet it, email it. As often as you can. We are so grateful!
Interested in playing an even larger role on the film?
There are five Associate Producer credits available for donations of $1000 and for each $5000 donation you receive an Executive Producer credit. Your name will appear in the credits of the film and on the website. Please note that these are honorary titles and do not engender any creative or business involvement/decision-making nor does the credit entitle any claim of ownership.
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