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July 2017 is my son Victor's birthday month, as well as the 37th anniversary of his death. We are honoring his life and his memory by celebrating the publication ofTHE UNSPEAKABLE LOSS  on November 7th, 2017 by DeCapo Lifelong Books.
July 2017 is my son Victor's birthday month, as well as the 37th anniversary of his death. We are honoring his life and his memory by celebrating the publication ofTHE UNSPEAKABLE LOSS  on November 7th, 2017 by DeCapo Lifelong Books.
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THE UNSPEAKABLE LOSS: How Do You Live After A Child Dies?

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We are so close! The time is now. Our Kickstarter book campaign closes August 20th. With your overwhelming support, we reached our initial conservative Kickstarter goal within the first week of the campaign. With your support and encouragement, we are now seeking to raise the additional funds needed for our total project budget. Our project budget includes my national outreach program, allowing me to share THE UNSPEAKABLE LOSS and its comforting and hopeful message with grieving families nationwide. We are at 78% of the amount needed. We have just a few days left in the campaign and ask for your support to help us go all the way. Please invite others to join us now. Each donation makes a difference! Thank you for your love and support!

Every year over 100,000 families in the US experience the death of a child, leaving behind parents, siblings, families and communities who must find ways to deal with their loss.

In 1980, my oldest son, Victor, died in a hiking accident in Yosemite National Park, one week before his 18th birthday. 

Although I was a professional therapist and grief counselor at the time, my knowledge and training did little to soothe my devastation and pain. How could I live after my child died? How do you survive with a broken heart? But I knew I had to. I had two other children, a husband, family, friends, and clients. But still I did not know if I could make it.

I made a vow at that time that if I did survive, I would do what I could to help others survive this unspeakable loss. And to help bring comfort and hope to them in the midst of their grief. 

As part of my healing, and through the course of my work, I interviewed surviving parents who shared their stories in hope of helping others. I kept notes of my journey, as well, from the onset of my deepest grief through the process of my on-going years of healing. I’ve counseled hundreds of grieving families through the years and have seen the unique way the death of a child affects each of us.

I’m completing my book THE UNSPEAKABLE LOSS: How Do You Live After A Child Dies? It’s a groundbreaking book of collective wisdom from bereaved parents. A journey of over three decades of survival, hope and healing. It’s written intimately to bring comfort and support to each member of the family, as well as friends and anyone who has lost a loved one.

I invite you, on behalf of all those suffering in their grief, to please make a contribution, to join me and to help this book get published. All funds received will be used to cover the cost of editors, designers, publishing and marketing consultants. 

Our goal in this Kickstarter campaign is to raise $18,000. Funds will be used for editing, publishing, promoting and marketing the book, and self-publishing a second book, titled SPEAKING THE UNSPEAKABLE, a companion book of poems. 

These poems are the words of the mothers, exactly as they spoke them. Names of the mothers and their children have been removed to let the poems speak as the universal voice of a bereaved mother. The book contains line drawings from Kristin Jakob and the botanical photography of Margery Diamond.

My son Victor’s birthday is July 19th I’m honoring his memory by launching this campaign on that day. Please consider making a donation to honor someone you love, in memory of someone you’ve lost or for a loved one who needs healing. Any amount you can contribute is greatly appreciated. If you feel my campaign will touch your friends and family I encourage you to share this with them. Thank you for your love, support and helping to make this book available to those who need it.

Risks and challenges

As soon as the campaign has successfully completed, I will submit a proposal to several traditional publishers. The initial response from those in the industry has been favorable, and I anticipate publishing the book via the traditional route. However, if the book is not picked up, I will self-publish THE UNSPEAKABLE LOSS with the help of a seasoned independent publishing professional with whom I have already spoken.

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    Rewards 1, 2 and 4, plus an acknowledgement in THE UNSPEAKABLE LOSS in memory of your loved one, in a special memorial section in the book.

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