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A journey out of co-dependence, people-pleasing, & over-commitment.
A journey out of co-dependence, people-pleasing, & over-commitment.
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We have all experienced this. You know, that lonely, post-traumatic realization that we are trying to do too much. That maybe, maybe we should have said no.

If you ever find yourself in that place, overwhelmed with commitments, each of which as worthy as the next, all of which are too important to give up, you don’t know how to create space, and you just can’t bring yourself to say no, then this is the book for you.

If you’ve ever been stuck in a cycle with a loved one or a friend where you feel taken advantage of, or even just taken for granted, you might even stand up for yourself, or create distance from that friend, only to find yourself in the exact same position with the same person or someone new, then this is the book for you.

If you have a loved one who just never seems to break a cycle that you know is destroying them, and deep down you feel you are stuck in a cycle right alongside them, enabling them, then this is the book for you.

Come alongside me as we take on the mammoth task of learning why “No!” can be the best thing for everyone, and then actually go about the task of doing it, one boundary at a time.

Need a little extra? Some of our contribution levels include a companion journal. View all of our contribution levels below.

So many books in the “self-help” genre feel like an idealistic textbook, written from the lofty, academic, detached perspective of an expert who has studied the issue at hand and has a “ten easy steps” checklist for readers to follow to fix their problems. While the expertise is essential for both the sake of credibility and actual knowledge of the solutions, it often feels to the reader like, well, an expert opinion, looking down at the poor, struggling reader like an announcer at a sporting event. In an effort to highlight their professional credibility, the humanity of the author is often lost.  

This book is nothing like that. While I am educated in the fields of counseling, psychology, sociology, family studies, (and English!), and the expertise and academic points of view are definitely at play in the solutions presented to the reader, this book is woven through with my own personal exploration, trials, errors, and successes at working through my own messes. It is written from a perspective of walking alongside you as you read, exploring the challenges that aren’t obvious in a textbook. After all, it’s easy enough to say “just say no!” but let’s be real - there’s an art to doing so, and knowing when to do it.

“I am as responsible to keep promises to myself as to others!”  

“The fact is, dreams don't require the approval of others to be achievable.” 

“I came to realize that just because there is a reason a person behaves badly, doesn’t mean they are excused from consequences.”  

“Forgiveness is for the forgiver”  

“So how do we measure love?”  

“Are you most strongly motivated in your relationships by the desire to prevent the other from hurting?”  

“Just because people don't understand what you're doing, or they don't believe it's worth the risk, doesn't mean you shouldn't do it.”  

While this is my first book, I am by no means new to professional writing. In addition to working as a professional copywriter and proofreader for several years, I have two blogs. Feel free to get a taste of my writing style and the quality of my content at http://asksuzyadvice.blogspot.com/, which features advice and worldviews and has over 10,000 views, and at http://writingchef.blogspot.com/, a summer project showcasing food, recipe, and restaurant reviews, which racked up 4,000 views in just 3 months. These are organic views as the blogs were never marketed beyond a personal social media platform.

I need to raise a minimum of $7,000 in order to fund this project. This covers the cost of design and publishing services for both a physical and digital copy of the book, marketing, and promotion of the book.

Below is an estimated breakdown of the minimum of $7,000 I am hoping to raise:  

Publishing: $1,000  
Graphic Design: $1,000
Marketing & Promotion: $5,000 

Any funds we raise in excess of the $7,000 will be used to get the book’s message out there through additional marketing and promotion.

 *The companion journal cover art is still in the creation process and is subject to change.

**Luggage art is use by www.freepngimg.com.

Risks and challenges

This book is already a completed work. it has been written and the front cover art has been designed. All that remains is refining elements such as proof reading, formatting, fine-tuning, marketing strategy, and obviously publishing.

The companion journal is still in the creation process.

Risks involved with publishing are being mitigated by our having identified alternative publishing avenues should the current plan have unexpected hiccups.

Any serious issues that would risk a delay have been factored into our current projected deadline for distribution. In the event of any unexpected changes to our production plan, all backers will be notified and provided with detailed explanation of the issue, the solution, and the exact degree of delay, if any, they may cause.

It is a priority for Love & The Art Of Saying No to be distributed well in time for the 2018 holiday season, and extra measures are being taken to deliver within that goal.

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