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Pick a card, then pick your brain. Be honest, sincere, and vulnerable. This game is all about authentic human connection.
Pick a card, then pick your brain. Be honest, sincere, and vulnerable. This game is all about authentic human connection.
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So Cards – a collection of questions for deeper discussions.

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(To order more than one deck, simply add 13 euros to your order. Additional shipping fees may apply. )

Imagine what you could do with fifty-two.
Imagine what you could do with fifty-two.

Many people crave great conversation, but few know how to start one. A good question can be the tiny spark that ignites a forest fire of thoughts, ideas, and personal revelation. This deck has fifty-two of them designed to foster deeper or more entertaining discussions than if you’d simply asked how are you, how was work, or did you see that thing on the news? Bring this to parties, the dinner table, or to a stranger. Take turns, take your time, and see where one card can take you.

Great game! But it's more like Cards For Humanity.

More sincere than snide. Earnest instead of edgy. Shocking in that you'd be shocked by people's vulnerability (and your own too!)

I do love Cards Against Humanity though.

The mechanics are simple. Pick one card. Take turns answering. Take as much time with each person. Let those simple prompts lead you to whole other ideas. One can also use these as simple writing prompts for self-reflection, or as a means of meeting strangers.

Just like a regular deck of playing cards, the rules can vary according to the players’ preferences as well. Perhaps a player can pick a card and have the others answer for him/her, and whoever has the closest guess wins a point. For more suggestions, head over to this page.

What matters is to be open, curious, and present – whether it’s with strangers, friends, or family. These are the cards not against but for humanity, and more importantly, human connection.

If you connect with one another, if you find out something entirely about a person, if you find out something entirely new about yourself, if you end up going on an endless series of tangents, get lost in the conversation, and suddenly realize it's 2am and you've bonded over all sorts of topics, then you win.

 Great question! It's true you can find boxes containing hundreds of icebreakers. I don't know about better, but I do know what sets So Cards apart:

  • First, the quality of questions. The fifty-two in the deck has been selected from hundreds of options. In my time as a documentary filmmaker, I often had to come up with ways to get people to open up within a limited amount of time. A lot of the questions I used in those moments are in this deck. You're not going to find duds like if you were ice cream, what flavor would you be?
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  • Second, the packaging. There is a reason why these questions are packaged as playing cards. It isn't just so you can stuff it on your pocket and bring it wherever you go (though that is convenient!) From what I've observed, most people do want deeper conversations, and someone people do know what questions to ask, but sometimes, it can be pretty intimidating to make that step. A deck of cards creates a feeling of familiarity. It's safe. It's approachable. If someone pulls out a question that is a bit too personal, then there's no one to blame but the deck. (Or me. You can definitely blame me.)
Deep, vulnerable conversations go well with beer and food
Deep, vulnerable conversations go well with beer and food
  • Lastly, I'm not just putting out a product. When you buy a deck, you are supporting a movement. I believe that deeper conversations can build stronger bonds, which are the foundation of a good community. Purchasing a deck is a declaration that you believe that too. To use it is to participate in an initiative to create more moments of authentic human connection.
A gallery of real people with real answers. So far, this has featured people from the Netherlands, Luxembourg, Poland, Germany, the US, South Korea, the Philippines, and Sierra Leone.
A gallery of real people with real answers. So far, this has featured people from the Netherlands, Luxembourg, Poland, Germany, the US, South Korea, the Philippines, and Sierra Leone.

I've talked about the quality of the question, but what about the quality of the cards themselves? Well, I'm working with Cartamundi. If you haven't heard of them, you might've heard of Munchkins or Werewolves, both of which they print.

They have also been doing this for over 200 years.

Basically, we're in good hands.

The Collectors' Deck is exclusive to Kickstarter backers and the fortunate few that I tested these cards with in the early stages. It's part of the very first batch printed in Europe. On top of dozens of questions not included in the regular deck, it also contains a special thank you card and a blank card for those who want to write in their own question. If that wasn't enough, in each box, I've inserted a handwritten note containing my very honest answer to one of the deck's questions. (The Amsterdam Exclusive is the same, except it's delivered to you by hand – we even get to high five!)

This card will never be printed ever again.
This card will never be printed ever again.
Be one of the originals
Be one of the originals

This deck is just one of many to come. That is, if this campaign is a success. The questions for future decks have already been written and designed. They're all just waiting to be printed. You can expect a sequel as well as specific collections like decks for kids, for couples, and for families. There might even be themed ones focused on art, music, or sports.

Miguel is a filmmaker, photographer, and writer. Most of the questions came from his years of shooting documentaries and conducting interviews. The idea was born out of his frustration with small talk and shallow conversation. (Really, there's a limit to how much you can talk about the weather, work, and who's dating whom.) Originally, this was made for parents wanting to have better conversations with their kids at the dinner table, but it turned out it's a real universal predicament.

photo by Simon Gonzaga (who also happens to own an awesome line of Hawaiian shirts)
photo by Simon Gonzaga (who also happens to own an awesome line of Hawaiian shirts)

Miguel was born in Manila, moved to San Francisco to study film at the Academy of Art, worked in the film industry in Los Angeles as a camera assistant, directed a bunch of shorts that got in a bunch of festivals, moved back to Manila to direct commercials and docs in Southeast Asia, then for some odd reason, went on hiatus to move to Europe and study Media & Culture at the University of Amsterdam. He is now finished the program and is focused on bringing So Cards to life. He also finds it strange speaking in third person.

I get asked this question a lot. Yes, in the future, it might be cool to launch an app. After all, it would make it easier to reach more people. Plus, the overhead would be way lower. BUT for now, I would like to hold off. Here's why:

To play this game, you don't need your phone. So you and your friends can stuff them in a drawer and be completely present with one another. More importantly, what I want is for people to have this tactile experience. Do you remember passing around old family albums or stacks of photos? That feeling you get isn't quite the same as scrolling through a virtual gallery with a phone and a finger. Or compare the act of browsing Spotify versus flipping through dusty vinyl sleeves. Not quite the same, right? There's also the classic comparison of real books versus a Kindle. With paper, you get these small wrinkles, stains, and tears that make the object yours. That doesn't really happen with an app.

One day it could happen, but for now, let's stick to a real deck, in a real box, and real interactions.

Even if you can't contribute, if you think this is something that should exist in this world, you can help by spreading the word.

Think of all your friends who would love this and send them a link to the campaign! Lastly, if you're on social media, follow So Cards on Facebook and Instagram

At the risk of sounding like a broken record, thank you for all the support.

(Music by Miggy Concepcion)

Risks and challenges

I have been coordinating with Cartamundi since February of this year. We have also done an initial print of 200 to ensure quality. We've also talked about shipping and handling. Issues regarding the safe arrival of the cards have been straightened out.

In case their Benelux branch is unable to handle orders, they have several others to help with the load. If that is not even an option, there are also five other suppliers who would be able to carry the load.

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    Thank you!

    Your support means the world to me. Here's how I plan on expressing my gratitude:

    I will put on a suit and tie, get in front of a camera, and read off the names of every single person who contributed to this project.

    (I will try my hardest to get pronunciations wright, but I do apologize in advance if I end up butchering yours!)

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    So Cards – single deck

    One copy of So Cards (Ages 12+)

    - contains 52 questions and 2 rule cards

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    So Cards – Amsterdam Special

    This is for everyone who lives in Amsterdam (OR will be passing through this wonderful city in August.)

    - You get the deck a full TWO MONTHS before everyone else delivered to you personally.
    - You get a free series of portraits and an entry in the So Cards Instagram page.

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    So Cards – Collectors Deck

    A copy of the standard deck

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    You get one of decks from the first batch ever printed. On the front are the words "The Original." Inside is a special note of gratitude that you won't find in the standard deck. It also contains a signed card as well as a personal handwritten note containing my answer to that card's question.

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    You get a set of five decks PLUS a special So Cards postcard.

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    Stocking Stuffer

    Great for anyone who wants to give these decks out for gifts.

    You get ten decks for a slightly discounted rate, plus you save a ton on shipping. (Around thirty euros less, depending on where you live.)

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