My name is Blaine Bartel and my wife Lori and I are inviting you to team up with us to positively impact the future of men and marriages everywhere.
We have designed a three part collective that we believe will provide unprecedented hope and practical resources for those who have experienced the pain that pornography and sexual addiction can bring to a man and his family. We are thrilled to present to you...
Chopping Wood - The Freedom from Pornography and Sexual Brokenness Compilation
First a little history. For more than 20 years I lived two lives.
My public life. Television shows. Pastor to thousands. Best selling author.
My secret life: A serial sex addict.
I finally came to the end of myself and told my wife, my children, my family, my church and my friends everything.
And I do mean everything.
It was ugly and painful. And my life would never be the same.
I was sent to one of the most esteemed sexual addiction centers in the country. Upon hearing my story, the founder told me, "Blaine, you are America’s poster child for sexual addiction." He followed that with "I doubt you will ever find freedom."
I lost my marriage. My career. My home. All the money I had. And most tragically - my will to live.
Fast forward seven years to today. I am in my fifth year of complete freedom and sobriety from this horrific addiction.
And Lori and I are on a mission to stop this camouflaged killer that is striking at the very heart of men and their marriages at such an alarming rate.
Consider these facts:
- The Barna Group reported that 79% of men say they view pornography at least once a month.
- According to the Journal of Adolescent Health, prolonged exposure to pornography leads to diminished trust between intimate couples and the abandonment of the hope of sexual monogamy.
- The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers reported that 68% of the divorces involved one party meeting a new lover over the Internet and 56% involved one party having “an obsessive interest in pornographic websites.”
- In a survey of 63 wives of self-identified sex addicts, 70% met most criteria for a diagnosis of post-traumatic stress disorder.
- Kaiser Family Foundation discovered that 70% of high school students say they have accidentally stumbled across pornography online.
- Out of 1,500 performers working in the porn industry located in the San Fernando Valley, California, 228 porn stars died from AIDS, suicide, homicide, drugs and premature deaths between 2003 and 2014 according the The Pink Cross Foundation.
We cannot be silent about this monstrous epidemic anymore.
Here is what we want to assemble in this Freedom Collective.
My new book, "The Seven Dirty Little Secrets of Resurrection. My confession, my crash and my comeback from sexual addiction."
This is a gut-wrenching account of my deadly descent into America’s sexual underworld and my inconceivable passage to resurrection.
The Seven Dirty Little Secrets of Resurrection chronicles the story of my rise to fame as a star in the evangelical world and more poignantly, my deranged fall into a secret sexual addiction. It is a story of love lost, faltering faith, uncontrollable obsession and my ultimate discovery… that beauty comes in the dying.
How could a man of the cloth become a man without conscience? Why would a man that had all he could possibly want risk losing everything? How did he conceal his secret underworld identity for over twenty years? What was the breaking point for his confession? And what were the seven secrets of his resurrection from this horrifying addiction?
You'll find out all this and more, in this emotionally riveting book. The Seven Dirty Little Secrets of Resurrection will stun you with it’s stories, surprise you with it’s honesty and transform you with it’s secrets.
But that's not all.
This Freedom Collective also includes "Chopping Wood," a one-on-one coaching video for men desiring sexual purity. Additionally, it will contain an audio coaching program produced by Lori and I, entitled "Retrusting That Guy."
"Chopping Wood" Video Coaching for Men
This is a powerful 45 minute video presentation where I literally speak one-on-one into a man's life, as if he were having a conversation in my living room. I compassionately and methodically walk each viewer through the seven secrets of rising out of pornography and sexual lust once and for all.
Each viewer will receive new hope, new habits and a sharpened collection of tools that actually work to find that illusive walk of freedom that so many men find impossible. This video will prove to every man alive that real freedom is not only possible, it is a promise from God.
"Retrustng That Guy" Audio Coaching for Women
In this divinely therapeutic program, Lori and I give room for God to gently heal the heart women who have felt the awful sting of betrayal. Each listener is tenderly led down their own footpath of personal healing and discovering if,,, and how trust can be restored again.
Lori will share the story of the loss of her marriage to an alcoholic husband and the painful years that followed. We will candidly share our struggles, our love, and our private pathway to building a healthy relationship in light of my past failures and Lori's past hurts.
Finally, I can say without any hint of exaggeration, these are the most transformational coaching programs I've ever developed. All three of these extraordinary projects, the book, the video and the audio CD will be packaged in a beautifully designed companion box.
Why Chopping Wood?
Overcoming any habit or addiction is work. Early on in my recovery, one of my counselor's said it very simply, "Blaine, if you're going to win this war, you're going to have to chop wood everyday." I suppose this has become my metaphor for life. (in fact, I have an axe and wood in my office as a reminder)
Rising from the ashes of porn and sexual addiction isn’t as easy as the wave of a wand. Because getting out of your living grave is only the beginning.
There are grave clothes to be removed. Your eyes must adjust to the new light of day. And you must stop thinking like a dead man and begin re-imagining the extraordinary person you have been raised up to be. To learn more about all of our outreach, check this out. www.choppingwood.org.
We want to thank each and every one of you in a tangible way for your love and backing in this project! And because we have friends, colleagues and supporters from so many walks of life, we have designed more than twenty rewards for pledges that range from $10 to $10,000. Each reward has been carefully designed with one intention: to bless and benefit our gracious backers. Here are a few samples.
April: Launch Kickstarter
May/June: Production of the Chopping Wood Collective
July/August: Shipping to You.
Manufacturing the books and shipping to Kansas City: $5,000 for 1000 sets. Cost of production (design, labor, photography): $3,750 Packaging and shipping the books to you: $500 Miscellaneous/adding buffer to estimates: $750 (Kickstarter + Amazon together take approx. 7%)
Total: about $10,000
Not one. But all.
Can I end with a very short story?
There once was a little blonde haired boy who was kidnapped by a very evil man. He was locked in a cold, damp basement of an abandoned house on the edge of town. The disheveled shanty was besieged by overgrown brush. The entire town frantically searched for this lost son.
One day a neighbor walked by the decaying house and heard a faint scream. She called the police. Soon word spread that the lost boy may have been located. A rescue team of FBI, police, firemen and medics breached the shack, apprehended the kidnapper and saved the frightened boy.
When the boy walked out of the house, what he saw brought him to tears. The entire town had surrounded the house, hand in hand, praying he would be found alive. When the boy appeared, they clapped and cheered without pause for five straight minutes.
Hugging his mother and father, one of the townspeople shouted to the boy as he pointed to the rescue team, "Hey son, which one saved you?"
The boy fell silent. He looked into the eyes of each rescue team member. But his gaze continued, as he turned 360 degrees to catch the eyes and smiles of every person that surrounded him that day. Through his tears, he simply said...
"Not one. But all."
I am that little blonde haired boy. Thousands of people have been responsible in one way or another for my freedom today. I'm grateful for every one of them.
And... as you can see with our project goal, it’s going to take each one of our friends, family, colleagues and supporters jumping in to make the Chopping Wood Freedom Collective a reality.
We have a team of award winning designers, editors and filmakers that are ready to go to work on this important project.
Lori and I thank you from the depths of our hearts for helping this five year dream of ours come true.
One day soon, a man will write me a letter and share his story.
He will tell how my book transformed his life. He will recount how the video gave him the tools he needed... and how the CD brought healing to the heart of his precious wife. And his note will end with something like this, "Blaine, you are the one God used to change my life."
And I will reply with four simple words, "Not one. But all."
Tommy Hernandez - Thank you for helping us design the entire compilation and website.
Jeremy Bartel - Thank you for creating our video and products shots.
Lexi Owens - Thank you for shooting our "Chopping Wood" photography.
John Amatucci and Destry Davis - Thank you for photographing our book cover photo.
Andrew Green - Thank you for creating our "mock" compilation set.
Adam Palmer - Thank you for helping us out with our book editing.
Jon and Lisa Purkey - for loving and pastoring us so well.
Ed Gungor, Ruth Graham and Brent Sharpe -Thank you for being our advisors and ministry mentors.
Erik Lawson - Thank you for believing in us and helping us get this project off the ground.
Rick Burke - Thank you for your friendship and your generosity in this new ministry to men.
Risks and challenges
The only risk is NOT receiving the backing we need. Our team is ready to go into design, editing print and production of the important project.
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