Making My Own Story
Making My Own Story
My husband walked out on me after 13 years. I'm a professional writer and photographer. Let's turn lemons into lemonade, shall we?
My husband walked out on me after 13 years. I'm a professional writer and photographer. Let's turn lemons into lemonade, shall we? Read more
I met my husband when I was 13-years-old. We began dating when we were 17 and married at the tender age of 21. It's the only relationship either of us have ever been in. I thought I was one lucky woman to find the love of my life so early. I thought by doing so I had escaped heartbreak. This has not been the case.
After being together for over 13 years, my husband has left me. I did not anticipate his abandonment. I thought we were happy and he adored me as much as i did him. However, he has told me that he wants to "take a break" and see what other experiences are out there. I can only assume that, for him, the infamous "seven year itch" has come a bit later.
Against my wishes he has cut me out of his life for the next 3 months while he explores his options. He expects me to sit on my hands during that time while he figures out if he wants to keep the promise he made to me over 9 years ago. He must not know me as well as I thought he did.
What To Do
At 30, I have never been a single woman. My husband was my first and only boyfriend. He was my date to every high school dance. Over a decade later he has forced me into the single life and I'm the type of person who turns tragedy into opportunity. I have to figure out who I am without him.
I've been a freelance writer and photographer since 2010. I've traveled the world reporting on an array of interesting topics. From investigating the shark infected beaches of Recife, Brazil to exploring the drug culture in Amsterdam. I have been very fortunate to do what I love and now I'm turning my predicament into a story to share with others. While my husband figures out his life I want to go out into the world and create my own story.
I've decided to take a trip somewhere I've never been, meet new and interesting people and turn this unexpected situation into something positive. Everyone has experienced the agony of heart break. I want to share mine with others as a source of inspiration.
I plan on documenting my trip for Eide Magazine, a publication available nationwide at Barnes & Noble as well as Whole Foods . This feature will bring my travels (that you guys help make possible) to the masses. I will also post a photo gallery and personal narratives on my blog aspiringgypsy.com.
Where Will I Go
Right now, I'm looking at a 9 day trip to Thailand with the tour company Contiki.com. While I've traveled through Europe and South America several times, I have never been to Asia and Thailand is a beautiful place to start. This trip will be different from others that I've taken in this it will be a trip to self discovery. I've never embarked upon a foreign country completely solo with the purpose of self reflection. I have been someone's wife for over 9 years so now is a time to focus on who I am as an individual.
I've chosen to use a tour company, and particularly this trip, because they offer affordable last minute trips. They also pair you with a group of individuals in your demographic so you have the opportunity to forge lasting relationships during your travels. I feel that through a tour group environment I can divide my time between being alone and meeting new people.
I have the entire month of September to travel so if I raise more money I'll simply extend my trip as long as funds permit. The longer the trip the better the story =)
Risks and challenges
The biggest challenges I would face if my project were made possible would be overcoming my own insecurities and emotions. Trying to use my setback as a way to expand my horizons may prove to be overwhelming at first. However, I adapt to situations easily and find that turning challenges or uncomfortable situation into an assignment helps me put things in a new perspective.
Other challenges would be what any traveler faces; delayed flights, unexpected illness, lost luggage, etc. I have experienced all of these situations in the past and as a seasoned traveler am prepared to handle these setbacks as they arise.Learn about accountability on Kickstarter
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