Pronouns matter. People should be called what they ask to be called. Change can be hard, and sometimes people need a visual reminder.
Enter Pronoun Pins.
Here are some actual production shots of these quality pins. They are 1.75" with two 4mm posts so that they don't fall out. They are made of custom molded metal, then filled with enamel, and then fired with a glaze. The result: eye-catching and durable pins that really pop!
We've been putting pronouns on nametags at events or when we introduce ourselves and each other. We've used stickers and maybe even patches to add to our clothes. I wanted to make pins that were fun, visible and can be transferred from one outfit to the next. Enamel pins are back in fashion (and I, for one, am glad) and while we may wear kawaii kitties or ironic foxes, I think folx should add a pronoun pin to their collection.
People often roleplay a different gender than their primary identity, but most importantly a lot of people are questioning their assigned gender and stepping outside of the gender binary of male and female (you know, like lots of non-Western cultures have done for centuries). That means that many people are trans, nonbinary, agender, genderfluid, or genderqueer, and don't necessarily use "he" or "she" as their pronouns, or use the same pronoun from day to day. There are more than two genders.
If you don't get misgendered on a daily basis (be glad you don't, it really really sucks), wearing a pronoun pin is awesome. The more people who wear pronoun pins, the more visible pronouns will become, and the less people will "just assume." There's a saying about ass-u-me somewhere. Don't do it.
Who am I?
I'm Maury, she/her or they/them. I'm a lucky one. I don't get misgendered frequently, and I'm comfortable with two pronouns. My name is typically a male name, though, and so I am often mistaken for a man. That used to bother me more. It might even give me an extra bit of privilege on a resume or something. Kyriarchy. Sigh.
I'm the founder of a national immersive theatre and live-action roleplay world and series of events: New World Magischola. One of our missions is to let people "be the wizard they want to be," and part of our community design is to make pronouns explicit, visible, and correctable.
I've written an article about it here, and I'm writing a book about safety, accessibility, and inclusion in group (and especially gaming) spaces. McFarland Press will publish it in 2019.
Why wear a Pronoun Pin?
Even if you identify, present, and are seen as the same gender you were assigned at birth, wearing a pronoun pin is cool. Not just because they look good, but because we shouldn't put the burden of wearing a pronoun pin only on those who might be misgendered, or whom "someone" decided "needs" one. Eff that noise. Everyone wear a pin. Pronouns cannot be assumed.
Meanwhile, I made these pin designs (with the awesome graphics eye of my friend Browning), and I hope you'll want to support this project. Not only does it make pronouns more visible and cool, but it helps support my efforts (and the efforts of some awesome wizards) to improve safety, inclusion, and accessibility in gaming and in groups everywhere.
They're inspired by Schoolhouse Rock, where many folx learned about the Parts of Speech. (Youtube it and be earwormed. You're welcome.)
And next, we need to redo the Schoolhouse Rock Pronouns video to include singular they and xe/xem/xir. Times change.
Add-Ons! Yes, You Can!
If you'd like to add an additional pin to your order, just add $12 to cover the pin and shipping to your existing pledge. Choose a reward level, and then manually change the pledge amount to be the Reward Tier plus $12 for each additional pin you would like. At the end of the campaign, you'll get a survey and you can choose which design you prefer for each pin.
My Pronouns Aren't Available :(
Because of costs and minimum quantities for production (100 of each pin), this campaign only is able to include the most commonly used pronouns. If you use a different pronoun, the "Ask Me My Pronouns" is available for you. It's also great for folx whose preferred pronouns may shift, or for folx who just want to draw attention to the polite practice of asking, not assuming. I have a friend with an embroidery machine who can custom produce a patch for you, though, with your exact pronouns. Send me a message and we can work it out if you are interested.
Risks and challenges
Although this is my first solo Kickstarter, I've done 6 other successful Kickstarters for my company. The pin manufacturer I'm working with has done other pins for me before, and they are swell.
The designs are done and prototyped, so it's just a matter of closing the campaign, placing the order and handling the shipping. We got this.
If I get struck by lightning or eaten by a whale, I have a back up plan for getting the product fulfillment taken care of.
And, if something goes awry, I'll of course communicate with you right away.Learn about accountability on Kickstarter
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