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FAT SEX:The Naked Truth by Rebecca Jane Weinstein
Help me publish and promote this cutting-edge book that challenges stereotypes and prejudices!
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Research shows that weight discrimination is currently more prevalent than race and gender discrimination. These stories need to be published and the publishing houses don't see a market, meaning it won't help them get rich. Lack of money shouldn't bar justice. I need your help and the people brave enough to tell their stories need your help. Money is tight for everyone, I know. Every few dollars gets me closer. Thank you!
- Watch the video above for a reading of the prologue.
Large-size women and men tell their true stories of social and self-acceptance in romantic and sexual relationships. Though they sometime face bigotry and experience shame – they are often heroic and live remarkably fulfilling lives. The stories are compelling and told with sensitivity and humor, connecting people on profoundly important aspects of their lives.
If there are two subjects that are universally fascinating and rife with controversy, they are sex and fat. Though our culture is obsessed with both, the notion of the two comingling is sometimes seen as offensive, obscene, or grotesque. There is an undertone in our society that fat people are not sexual beings, or shouldn’t be. This is, of course, far from the truth; fat people have normal, and peculiar, sex lives, just like everyone else. Fat Sex is a compilation of true stories, cultural references, and narrative commentary.
Each chapter will delve into a different topic related to romance, relationships, and sexual practices. Subjects will include heterosexuals, gay men and lesbian women, those who have gained and lost a great deal of weight, the sexual “underground” such as cybersex and pornography, also "fetishes" such as “BBW lovers” and “feederism.” Experiences, thoughts, and feeling about being a fat person in a sexual culture, sexual situations, and intimate relationships will be explored, explained, and validated. Through shared understanding people find the best in themselves and others.
Though a frank discussion of sex, it is intended for a wide adult audience. Participants will be interviewed and the author will distill the interviews and other information into a thoughtful and entertaining narrative expressed in her own compelling and often witty voice.
The author, Rebecca Jane Weinstein, has been as a person of size since childhood. She was put on her first diet in first grade. She has lived through all of the things that people of size live through – the prejudices, the health issues, the endless advice, the constant struggle to be smaller, and the self-doubt. Rebecca has worked on size acceptance both personally and as an activist as the founder of PeopleOfSize.com, and has interacted with thousands of people of size, addressing virtually every emotional, physical, and health issue related to weight. She understands and feels their pain.
I have been fat, off and on, since I was four and my parents got a divorce. A pediatrician put me on my first diet in first grade and my teacher told the entire class I was not allowed to eat birthday cake. In Girl Scout Camp my bunk-mates would chant "here comes the tub" when I would walk by. I did many things to not be fat. Many of them dangerous, and none of them stuck. Though there were periods of not-so-fat, like after two summers of "fat camp" and later a lot of uppers -- in the end I got progressively fatter. In law school one supposedly kind and caring professor told me I would never get a job because of my body. Every aspect of my life, since before I can remember, was punctuated with what was apparently the most important aspect of my being: My fat body. Especially love.
If my own life experience wasn't enough, when I started working on PeopleOfSize.com I saw the pain, and that I was not alone. And it was not actually about body size, it was about shame. Fat people can't hide their bodies in the closet, but their shame is tucked neatly away.
Fat people are mere mortals, and they need a voice. I am just one person trying to give that voice to those whose shame keeps them from speaking. There is no institution behind me, or a curator for this page. It is me, my computer, and the wonderful people who tell me their stories, which I try to tell with compassion, empathy, honesty, and enough humor so we all don't jump off a bridge.
This is not a diet book, or a celebrity weight loss saga. The publishers don't see the dollar signs. I see the hearts of every fat person who ever got rejected or felt rejected and alone. I have a talent for writing. So I write. Help me write this. No one has ever done it before. I checked. You won't regret it. You all know and love someone who is fat -- and maybe it's yourself. Dust off that closeted shame and kick it in the ass. And in the process, maybe get some nookie.
PeopleOfSize.com is an online community that provides information, support, and interaction for "people of size" of all ages. We are not a diet site, though health and fitness are part of what we address. We focus on all aspects of life, from medical to fashion, relationships to daily living, entertainment to emotional well being.
We provide comprehensive information and access from many perspectives and offer a forum for discussion and social interaction. All subjects include a social networking function; people of size can communicate about their favorite plus/large size fashions, size friendly vacation spots, health questions and concerns, job, family, and relationships, political and social issues, and everything in between.
The PeopleOfSize.com e-community is a welcoming place for all people of size, recognizing everyone should have the opportunity to live life to the fullest, learn and grow, be healthy and happy. We are a community with no judgment, just opportunity. Of course, PeopleOfSize.com is totally free.
We also have a very active community on facebook.
- Photograph "Club Allegro Fortissimo" by William Klein does not represent the book jacket art, unless I can finagle it (and finagling takes money).
Artwork by world renowned artist Joyce Ellen Weinstein.
The works of Joyce Ellen Weinstein are concerned with the understanding of human relationships, beginning with ourselves and extending outward to include family, community, ethnicity, and nationality.
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