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Anthony Rapp, Jonathan Bennett and Alyson Hannigan star in this gay marriage drama. How do you make a modern relationship work?
Anthony Rapp, Jonathan Bennett and Alyson Hannigan star in this gay marriage drama. How do you make a modern relationship work?
Anthony Rapp, Jonathan Bennett and Alyson Hannigan star in this gay marriage drama. How do you make a modern relationship work?
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(L-R) Jonathan Bennett, Anthony Rapp, Lee Garlington, Sam Anderson, Alyson Hannigan, Hutchi Hancock, Thomas Dekker and Alona Tal star in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.
(L-R) Jonathan Bennett, Anthony Rapp, Lee Garlington, Sam Anderson, Alyson Hannigan, Hutchi Hancock, Thomas Dekker and Alona Tal star in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.

Hello Kickstarter Community!

Thank you for checking out our campaign for our film DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. This has truly been the little film that could, and it has been an incredible path that has gotten us to this point.

This all started because I felt compelled to tell a story about how two very different people make a marriage work - and why those differences are actually a blessing. Gay rights and marriage equality are issues I believe deeply in, and DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN seemed like a great way to talk about that issue in a way that could perhaps make a difference - by telling a story about two people in love, forced to confront their differences. Not two gay people. Not two straight people. Two people. We wrapped shooting on the day the Supreme Court announced their decision to make marriage equality the law of the land. How's that for serendipity?

I have been married to my incredible wife Allison for almost 14 years. They have been the best, most challenging, most rewarding, and most important 14 years of my life. I believe that everyone has the right to experience that for themselves, if they so desire.

I wrote DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN in the mornings before heading off to my day job, and with the help of my amazing producing partner Eric Kops, and brilliant casting director Rich Delia, we started sending it out to actors. These are relationships cultivated over many, many years of struggle trying to get independent films made - and on this one, everything finally just came together. So, I quit my job, kissed my wife and kids goodbye, and drove out to Los Angeles (from Maine) for six weeks to make the film.

It was a tremendous struggle to pull it all together - it is not an easy thing to attach the right cast, raise enough money, find the right locations, and then get it all done without enough money or time - but that's what makes independent film so much fun! I still can't believe what we accomplished in 15 days of shooting!

It's not the most comfortable thing for me to humble-brag about a film I wrote and directed, but I'm just so proud of what we all accomplished together, and what a truly beautiful film this has turned out to be. The level of talent involved in this project, at every level, was more than I could have ever hoped for, and the film really reflects that.

I desperately want you, and everyone else, to have the opportunity to see what we have created.

We are incredibly close to completing DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN, but now we need your help to cover the last little bit - specifically the sound design / edit / mix, color correction, music clearances, and mastering.

Eric and I have both decimated our life savings trying to make and finish this film, and we just don't have enough to bring it across the finish line.

Please help us finish DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN !

Anthony Rapp and Jonathan Bennett star in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.
Anthony Rapp and Jonathan Bennett star in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.

What is DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN About?

Daniel, 40, (Anthony Rapp) and Christopher, early 30's, (Jonathan Bennett) are very different men - in their interests, their choice of friends, their ways of handling life's stresses - but they are very much in love, and they are getting married tomorrow. At least that's the plan.

Triggered by the unexpected arrival of a long-lost childhood friend of Christopher's, the grooms-to-be confront their differences, and lean on their friends and family to get through a day filled with surprises, stresses, and uncertainty about their future together.

(L-R) Mackenzie Astin, Lee Garlington, Sam Anderson and Alyson Hannigan star in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.
(L-R) Mackenzie Astin, Lee Garlington, Sam Anderson and Alyson Hannigan star in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.

A Little More About The Film

DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN explores the different kinds of relationships we have in our lives, the different kinds of commitments we make, and ultimately what it means to be married - the ultimate commitment of choice. I wanted to tell a story about two very different people and how their differences influence and impact their relationship with each other, and with the other people in their lives, for better and for worse.

While this film does revolve around a gay marriage, it is at its core simply a film about marriage. My intention in writing it was to remove the significance of the "gay" or "straight" descriptor and just write a film about the importance of the commitment of marriage. Presenting the story this way, with these universal relationship themes and issues, makes a statement without saying a word - in love we are all the same. Gay, straight, or otherwise is irrelevant. Anyone who chooses to enter into the incredibly difficult and incredibly rewarding commitment of marriage faces the same challenges and enjoys the same rewards.

(L-R) Alona Tal, Thomas Dekker, Jonathan Bennett and Hutchi Hancock star in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.
(L-R) Alona Tal, Thomas Dekker, Jonathan Bennett and Hutchi Hancock star in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.

 The Cast

  • Anthony Rapp (Rent, Dazed and Confused, A Beautiful Mind)
  • Jonathan Bennett (Mean Girls, Cheaper by the Dozen 2, "Cake Wars")
  • Alyson Hannigan (American Pie, "How I Met Your Mother," "Buffy the Vampire Slayer")
  • Thomas Dekker ("Heroes," "Terminator: The Sarah Connor Chronicles," "The Secret Circle")
  • Mackenzie Astin ("Scandal," "The Magicians," "The Facts of Life")
  • Alona Tal ("Hand of God," "Veronica Mars" "Supernatural," Broken City)
  • Sam Anderson (Forrest Gump, Water For Elephants, "Lost," "ER," "Justified")
  • Lee Garlington (One Hour Photo, Field of Dreams, "Everwood")
  • Hutchi Hancock (Jack Goes Home, Dreamer)
  • Marla Sokoloff (Dude Where's My Car, "The Fosters," "The Practice," Sugar & Spice)
Alyson Hannigan stars in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.
Alyson Hannigan stars in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.

How We Got Here, and Why Kickstarter

In 2016 I think just about everyone has some idea of how difficult it is to make an independent film, and in a world of sequels, franchise films, and super hero movies, I think it is also more clear than ever why independent film is so important. 

We set out to make a meaningful, hopeful, realistic drama, where nothing blows up - that's a difficult thing to get financed. Add to that a gay-themed subject matter and a politically divisive issue, and you end up with a film that is very, very difficult to get financed.

But we believed we were making a film that should be seen, that could have a genuine positive impact on people, and that could even change some minds - so my wife and I decided to invest our savings into the project, and my producing partner, Eric Kops, decided to do the same. With real money in the film we were able to start attaching our amazing cast (who all worked for the least amount of money they are allowed to work for) and more investment money followed - not a lot, but enough to get the film shot, or "in the can."

At that point, Eric and I both decided to further dance all over the classic Hollywood truism - never invest your own money. We broke out the credit cards, and I got busy editing. Now we have a nearly completed film, a fair amount of debt, and no more funds to get DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN over the finish line. That's why we need you, and why we're incredibly grateful that a community like Kickstarter exists. 

(L-R) Jonathan Bennett, Marla Sokoloff and Anthony Rapp star in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.
(L-R) Jonathan Bennett, Marla Sokoloff and Anthony Rapp star in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.

The Plan To Finish

We have spoken with the talented individuals who we need to finish the film, and they have given us their quotes to complete their portion of the film. They are ready to get to work. 

We have the right people, we know what they cost, and they're all cutting us incredible deals because they believe in the film. With your help we will have the money to pay them, and the film will be completed in a matter of weeks. We're so close! Please help us get this film out into the world!

Jonathan Bennett and Anthony Rapp star in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.
Jonathan Bennett and Anthony Rapp star in DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.

What If We Surpass Our Goal?

Wouldn't that be awesome! We certainly hope that does happen because we know exactly what we're going to do with any extra funds - put them into the promotion of the film.

Did I mention that Eric has worked in PR on independent films for the last 20 years?

We want as many people as possible to see DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN and every extra dollar we receive from this campaign will be used to that end. Eric has a plan, and he certainly knows what he's doing, so please continue contributing, and sharing our Kickstarter page with everyone even if we surpass our goal. In independent film, every single dollar, every single pair of eyes, helps enormously.

From the entire DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN team - Thank you!

Sincerely,

 

Jonathan Bennett and Director Joshua Tunick on the set of DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.
Jonathan Bennett and Director Joshua Tunick on the set of DO YOU TAKE THIS MAN. Photo by: Andrew Hreha © Modern Love, LLC.

 

Risks and challenges

While we're not blind to the potential risks in any project, the significant risks are behind us.

The film is shot, edited, and scored. We've selected a very talented sound designer / mixer / editor to complete that portion of the film, and have spoken with a number of excellent colorists ready to do the color correction. We know what these folks cost - we just need the money to pay them.

The biggest risk to the film, quite simply, is not raising the funds to get it finished. But with your help, and the successful completion of this campaign, there is no question that the film will be finished in a matter of a few weeks, and will hopefully be out in the world for all to see shortly thereafter.

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