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Why are relationships hard? A quest to understand sex, love and marriage in the 21st century.
Why are relationships hard? A quest to understand sex, love and marriage in the 21st century.
Why are relationships hard? A quest to understand sex, love and marriage in the 21st century.
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ABOUT THE PROJECT

Monogamish is a film about relationships, love, sex, desire, intimacy, passion, family.... It explores why people get together in the first place, and why it can be so difficult to stay that way. Have you ever considered how this whole thing got started? Who decided humans were supposed to live in couples their entire lives? Does it come from nature?  

Filmmaker Tao Ruspoli was faced with these very questions as he tried to get through a very painful (and public) divorce. So he took to the road for over 3 years to talk with relationship experts, best-selling authors, relatives, historians, artists, sex workers, philosophers and ordinary people, about love, sex and marriage, throughout history and into the 21st century. What he learned was so unexpected and so enlightening that he had to put it into a film.

Monogamish will make you think about your own life. By examining these issues, we learn not only about the world around us but also ourselves. Tao set out to make a revelatory film that we all can learn from and consider.  We think he succeeded. This film is a catalyst to a conversation we all need to have, both on the personal level and on a large-scale.

We all do have something to learn. We can all be better partners, better lovers. And really, can't we all learn to love better?

Moviemaker Magazine has singled Tao out as one of the 10 Young Filmmakers To Watch. His feature narrative debut, Fix, screened at Slamdance and the Santa Barbara Int'l Film Festival where he was awarded the Heineken Red Star Award for “most innovative and progressive filmmaker.” His well-known documentary Just Say Know is a personal discussion of his family’s drug addiction. His other films include Flamenco: A Personal Journey, and Being in the WorldTao founded LAFCO, the Los Angeles Filmmakers Cooperative, a bohemian collective of filmmakers and musicians who work out of a converted school bus and made the film Behind the Wheel.

Dan is America's most popular advice columnist. He writes Savage Love, a widely-syndicated sex advice column and also authored the popular Dear Dan advice column for ABCNews.com. He and his husband Terry founded the It Gets Better Project to help prevent suicide among LGBT youth.

Best-selling author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, translated into 25 languages. The New York Times, in a cover story, named her the most important game changer on sexuality and relationships since Dr. Ruth. Her critically acclaimed viral TED talk reached nearly 5 million viewers in the first year. 

Christopher Ryan is a well-known psychologist & author. His best-selling book Sex at Dawn (cowritten with his wife of 15 years, Cacilda Jethá) explores the evolution of monogamy in humans. He recently gave a TED talk on the topic, currently contributes to Psychology Today, and has a popular podcast called Tangentially Speaking

John Perry Barlow is poet and essayist, a retired Wyoming cattle rancher, and a cyberlibertarian political activist. He is a former lyricist for the Grateful Dead and a founding member of the Electronic Frontier Foundation

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After three years of work Monogamish is 80% done.  We just need one last push to take it into the world.  We can only do it with your help.

We are sure you'll be asking yourself: What EXACTLY will my money be used for?

We understand (and respect) your need for some specifics.  Here they are in the graph below! 

Now, it wouldn't be fair to ask for your help without offering something in return. We have put together an amazing collection of rewards, from films, to dinners, to parties with the crew!  

Here's some of...

Exclusively for our backers!  

LIMITED EDITION DONKEY LOVE T-SHIRT

Only 69 of these shirts with donkey love image by K.Kapoutsis, will be printed. Ever. Get Yours Now While They Last! 

 TAO TAKES YOUR PORTRAIT

Tao, MONOGAMISH's director, is also a professional photographer (check out his AMAZING portfolio HERE and HERE) who has an innate ability to capture beauty & humanity of any given subject or setting. For this EXCLUSIVE reward, he conducts a PERSONAL portrait session with you, someone you love or you + someone you love at his studio in LA. Want a SUBLIMELY TRANSCENDENT portrait? Here's your once in a lifetime chance at this price.

The Monogamish Limited Edition DVD

Packed with very special extras, full interviews with the most interesting collection of love, sex & relationships luminaries, and more....

A THREESOME of TAO’S FILMS (digital download)

+ Monogamish - The Movie
+ Fix - A mad race across Los Angeles, starring Olivia Wilde & Shawn Andrews
+ Being in the World - A celebration of being human in a technological age.   

A FIVESOME of TAO’S FILMS (digital download)

+ Monogamish - The Movie
+ Fix - A mad race across Los Angeles, starring Olivia Wilde & Shawn Andrews
+ Just Say Know - Meet Tao's brother who inspired Fix in this doc about family and drugs.
+ Being in the World - A celebration of being human in a technological age.
+ Manuel - An intimate portrait of the flamenco master featured in Being in the World

 

SLEEP WITH THE DIRECTOR

Tao's 1962, 22ft Airstream Safari has just been completely refurbished to full vintage glory - dark wood cabinetry, bespoke upholstery, cork floors, retro-chic design and all modern comforts in a tropical oasis in the very heart of Venice, CA.  You can read more details HERE.

Interior Tao's Airstream
Interior Tao's Airstream

I'm happily monogamous.  Why should I care?

This film isn't polyamory vs. monogamy.  The questions it explores are bigger than that. Issues that affect us all. Love. Sex. Intimacy. Desire. Relationships. Family. In examining these topics - the history, the politics, and the societal constructs that frame them - we can put them and their place in our own lives in perspective.  In short, in examining love, we can all love better.

When will the movie be released?

We plan to release the film later this year.

Don't see an answer to a question you have? 

ASK US AT monogamish@mangu.tv  and we WILL answer you.

How you can still help:

1. PLEASE SHARE SHARE SHARE OUR SITE LINK! It is with EVERY single share that we ripple out the awareness of this project! Please share and share often, including a brief but personal message asking your friends to visit the link. Monogamish.US

2. LIKE OUR FACEBOOK PAGE AND INVITE YOUR FRIENDS. This is the best way to stay the most up to date with our campaign and film.  FB also makes it easy to help share!

3. FOLLOW US ON TWITTER. @MonogamishMovie

Risks and challenges

Making a documentary film is always a challenge and not just for the obvious financial risks. The very nature of non-fiction filmmaking is not knowing what will happen. We know the film will resonate with a lot of people, but the challenge is getting the film to that audience.

The shooting of MONOGAMISH is finished and the edit is almost complete. However, several elements are still needed to get the film out into the world. We need to produce a trailer, DVDs, key art, a website, promos and viral videos. We have to create deliverable files and subtitles to make the film available on platforms like iTunes, Hulu and Amazon. These companies want films in certain formats and unfortunately these formats aren’t cheap to create. Beyond that, we are crafting a robust marketing campaign to get the message out to the mainstream.

Thanks for checking out our Kickstarter page. A huge thank you for helping us get this film out into the world!

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    FOR LAST 24 HRS ONLY! - TAO's SIGNED FLAMENCO CD + Digital Download of the film + project updates + an EXCLUSIVE ebook with the best love quotes & images from the film!

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    THREESOME: - A Digital Download of MONOGAMISH + 2 of Tao's films: BEING IN THE WORLD (awesome doc about skill and mastery) + FIX (staring Olivia Wilde & Shawn Andrews) + project updates + an EXCLUSIVE ebook with the best love quotes & images from the film!

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    Limited Edition T-SHIRT + THREESOME: - A Digital Download of MONOGAMISH + 2 of Tao's films: BEING IN THE WORLD (awesome doc about skill and mastery) + FIX (staring Olivia Wilde & Shawn Andrews) + project updates + an EXCLUSIVE ebook with the best love quotes & images from the film!

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    FIVESOME: Limited Edition DVD of MONOGAMISH + 4 Digital Downloads Tao's films: BEING IN THE WORLD (awesome doc about skill and mastery) + MANUEL (flamenco master Manuel Molina)+ FIX (staring Olivia Wilde & Shawn Andrews) + JUST SAY KNOW (a real life portrait of family & drugs) + Gift a digital view of the films MONOGAMISH, FIX & BEING IN THE WORLD to a friend of your choosing + project updates + an EXCLUSIVE ebook with the best love quotes & images from the film!

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    TANTRA WITH PSALM - an exclusive to this campaign; Your choice of WOMEN or COUPLES tantric video course with Psalm Isadora + digital download of MONOGAMISH + project updates + an EXCLUSIVE ebook with the best love quotes & images from the film!

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    MEET THE DIRECTOR: 30 minute Skype or Google Hangout with Tao + DVD of MONOGAMISH + 4 Digital Downloads of Tao's films: BEING IN THE WORLD (awesome doc about skill and mastery) + MANUEL (flamenco master Manuel Molina)+ FIX (staring Olivia Wilde & Shawn Andrews) + JUST SAY KNOW (a real life portrait of family & drugs) + Gift a digital view of the films MONOGAMISH, FIX & BEING IN THE WORLD to 2 friends of your choosing + project updates + an EXCLUSIVE ebook with the best love quotes & images from the film!

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    PREMIERE VIP - 2 VIP Tickets to the film's LA or NYC premiere + DVD of MONOGAMISH + 4 Digital Downloads of Tao's films: BEING IN THE WORLD (awesome doc about skill and mastery) + MANUEL (flamenco master Manuel Molina)+ FIX (staring Olivia Wilde & Shawn Andrews) + JUST SAY KNOW (a real life portrait of family & drugs) + Gift a digital view of the films MONOGAMISH, FIX & BEING IN THE WORLD to 2 friends of your choosing + project updates + an EXCLUSIVE ebook with the best love quotes & images from the film!

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    LUNCH WITH THE DIRECTOR: Tao treats you to Lunch at his favorite restaurant in LA + DVD of MONOGAMISH + 4 Digital Downloads of Tao's films: BEING IN THE WORLD (awesome doc about skill and mastery) + MANUEL (flamenco master Manuel Molina)+ FIX (staring Olivia Wilde & Shawn Andrews) + JUST SAY KNOW (a real life portrait of family & drugs) + Gift a digital view of the films MONOGAMISH, FIX & BEING IN THE WORLD to 2 friends of your choosing + project updates + an EXCLUSIVE ebook with the best love quotes & images from the film! Travel + accommodations not included.

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    POSE FOR THE DIRECTOR: Tao takes YOUR PORTRAIT + DVD of MONOGAMISH + 4 Digital Downloads of Tao's films: BEING IN THE WORLD (awesome doc about skill and mastery) + MANUEL (flamenco master Manuel Molina)+ FIX (staring Olivia Wilde & Shawn Andrews) + JUST SAY KNOW (a real life portrait of family & drugs) + Gift a digital view of the films MONOGAMISH, FIX & BEING IN THE WORLD to 2 friends of your choosing + project updates + an EXCLUSIVE ebook with the best love quotes & images from the film! Travel + accommodations not included.

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    OJAI RETREAT: 3 days/2 nights for up to 6 people in beautiful Ojai, CA + DVD of MONOGAMISH + 4 Digital Downloads of Tao's films: BEING IN THE WORLD (awesome doc about skill and mastery) + MANUEL (flamenco master Manuel Molina)+ FIX (staring Olivia Wilde & Shawn Andrews) + JUST SAY KNOW (a real life portrait of family & drugs) + Gift a digital view of the films MONOGAMISH, FIX & BEING IN THE WORLD to 2 friends of your choosing + project updates + an EXCLUSIVE ebook with the best love quotes & images from the film! Travel not included.

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