De-stigmatize & clarify the confusion & secrecy associated with those who develop a virtual relationship:online or virtual world.
Virgin's Handbook on Virtual Relationships.
TY so much for listening and considering contributing to the Virgin's Handbook on Virtual Relationships...my research of these last 5 years in social media and virtual worlds as they relate to our individual interpersonal relationships..
Greetings, I am Pamala Clift, The Roadside Philosopher.... (aka Patricia Murphy)....Soooo excited to be able to share with you finally my research on social media and Virtual Worlds. How our biological unit interprets our computer interactions. The book is written about 57,000 words
We are in a technological society full of ways to connect, ....computers, cell phones.. even are cars can connect us. The new information from social media has over thrown countrys, is there any wonder that is has also been responsible for family break ups and confusion, online bullying and virtual relationships gone way sour. Men & women always have different perspectives, so when you add computer interactions.. how much more confusing is that?
Of course when something is new it will take time for us humans to figure out how best to engage and interact effectively. That is what causes the sensationalism and makes for good stories,.. our human confusion, not the medium. Hopefully this book will start the sorting of perceptions on its way.
Because having more information is good when you are seeking to find companionship online.
But the trouble is no one will talk about interpersonal online relationships openingly because then they need to deal with sex, porn, kinks.. etc.
Sex is a career killer!
So consultants and educators dance around the sex topic and its availability or deny that things can go Way awry with people's emotions in any of the computer-mediated communications venues.
Well I am tired of dancing... if I am going to die, I am going to die
I might as well get it all out in the open to be examined to tedium ... with a possible best practice way to deal with entering and guarding your virtual lives.
Does virtual mean "not" real?
Perceptions? Interpretations? Male & Female differences.. and of course sex online...as open and honest I can lay it out for you... because..
well because coming into this environment of computer interactions can catch you off guard. The power that it wields is far more staggering than any intelligent human being could imagine... It's just not right..
The hammer has come down on people of all walks of life. They have fallen for a perception that they hold dear and have no idea why and how they got there.
CEO's, Lawyers, Doctors, Business men, Educators they all stumble. It is a very confusing in here.
I listened to those that were horribly racked with pain over their virtual relationships and confusing encounters. Heck, people mispercieved even cell phone text .
Seems not only did I discover in my journey a way to deal with online relationships but the actual human male and female mating dance as well. (well one possibility)
I certainly don't have all the solutions, but I have a start...
Yes, people can meet online. Real relationships and trust can develop and blossom, but just like when you go shopping for an item, you should do research and prepare before the salesman gets your ear.
Kids in school have committed suicide because of social media interactions. Banning it will not make it go away. Parents need to understand what takes place and they are oblivious.. but they need to know other wise how can you prepare or educate the kids on perceiving things in a way that will not trash their self image.
So gathering information from hundreds of virtual world occupants & my beloved philosophers plus reading & engaging in many social media explosions in this revolution........ I will have to say,...... the transition to knowing More, may not always be pretty.
So the only thing I can offer is an orientation of what takes place and what way might allow you to enter and leave this medium.. still holding onto some dignity.
I have finished the book, but I talk better than I write, I need some help. I wish to get CreativeSpace to assist with getting this up, published, running and available on Amazon and Kindle, besides hiring an editor that will make sense of my verbal english into an acceptable print format.
So the money, if you would be so kind to contribute will go strictly to the cost of self publishing this work of five years.
All contributors will have the option of having their name listed on my website as contributor. For $1 you get a Vitural kiss from either Me Pamala or my Damn Brit of a partner Yossel in the virtual world of Second Life on Valentines Day. For $10 you will a Desktop screensaver resolution picture of that kiss as well.
For a pledge of $25 I will send you the audible file of me reading, in my most sultry of voice, your choice of either the chapter called-- To Women-- What your men would like you to know.. OR Chapt 8 To Men-- What women think you already know abou them, but your wrong.. lol.
Wow, use it for you own edification as how to approach women or understand men, or explain your gender to your significant other. You will have that chapter's solution a full month before it goes out to the public in mere print.
For $50 you receive all of the above plus you get 45 words or less within the book.. You can use it for an ad for a missing love, or a dedication as a Valentine Present. I will give you a certificate with your story to give to your beloved on Valentines,
For $100 you will get the PDF version of the whole book a month before it is out in print, plus all of the above.
For $250 or more you get everything mentioned plus an hours Skype time to discuss with me your virtual interactions pluses and minuses with the possibility of having your story fully told in a part II book.
For one person who wishes to contribute $1000 their picture or their avatar or real will join me on the cover of the book.. besides all the other perks.
I truly think this will go ballistic, since it has been reviewed by hundreds since I started giving my lectures two years ago by psychologists, philosophers, professors and digital citizens struggling for a handle on why they feel the way they do. There is nothing else out there that I have found that deals with perceptions and a method to help tackle the confusion. Besides.. I am not afraid to talk about sex..
So Thank you so much for your donations, your friendship and your insights! If you are one of my philosophers in world.. Ty as well for your contribution to my stability during my transition to understanding.
See you online or in-world!
Have a question? If the info above doesn't help, you can ask the project creator directly.
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Jan 14, 2012 - Feb 13, 2012 (30 days)
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For $1 or more you will receive a Virtual Kiss directly from me, Pamala Clift or my handsome British gentleman within Second Life (try it you may like it *smile*) and my deepest gratitude plus the option of having your name listed as a sponsor on the Virgin's Handbook of Virtual Relationships web page (either avatar or real life name). A jpg logo will be sent to your email proclaiming. "I Find Value in Virtual Relationships!" which you can use in your emails and website & pictures of your relationship. Please lets solve the complexities of perceptions and announce the value of our computer culture's connections. Love to have your assistance in Facebooking & Tweetering our common goal.Estimated delivery: Feb 2012
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For $10 or more you will receive updated project emails, your Valentine Kiss in Second Life plus a desktop screensaver resolution picture of the kiss in desktop screensaver resolution.Estimated delivery: Feb 2012
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For $25 or more you get the above & I will send you an audio file with my "well proclaimed provocative" voice of either your choice of two Chapters. Either Chapter 7---To Women--What your men would like you to know. OR Chapter 8---To Men--What women think you already know about them, but you're wrong...lol: Wow, use it for your own edification as how to approach women or understand men, or explain your gender to your significant other. We all want things to work! Now we have the beginnings of a manual! You will have that chapter's solution a full month before it goes out to the public in mere print!Estimated delivery: Mar 2012
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OMG, OMG, OMG For $50 or more you will receive all of the above plus the choice of telling the world in 45 words or less, after the concluding chapter of the book Your Story. You can use it for: an Ad for a missing online love- Or a Dedication & Valentine's Day present to your love that will forever announce your devotion and the value that you share.(You will receive a Certificate of Contribution to give your Valentine with your paragraph, Announcing the value you give to your Virtual Relationships) Need the passage by the beginning of Feb to be included.Estimated delivery: Feb 2012
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For $100 or more you will receive all of the above plus the very PDF that I sent to the publisher from which the book will be formatted, a month before it is published,Estimated delivery: Mar 2012
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For $250 or greater you will receive all of the above plus a personal Skype call or visit in Second Life in which we can meet for an hour in voice to discuss your own ups & downs with relationships. Possibly to be told in book II. I will also mail you an autographed copy of my book after it is finished to the address you specify.Estimated delivery: May 2012