A multi-media project exploring race relations in the US from the unique perspective of interracial couples.
Just Don't Bring One Home is a non-PC literary and short film exploration of race relations in the US from the unique front line perspective of interracial couples.
A cross between first-hand accounts, anonymous surveys and candid social experiments, the book and short films focus on the differences and similarities between black and white cultures from the vantage point of men and women who have chosen to live with a mate of the opposite race.
Why focus on issues that might get people riled up?
The project is born of the experience between a white woman and a black man (that’s us!) embarking on a life together and the realization that interracial relationships are not for the faint of heart. While nearly every industrialized country or historical empire in the world has progressed on the backs of slave laborers, most have moved past these shameful histories to foster diverse and fully integrated societies in a way the US just cannot seem to do.
Through interviews, surveys, short films and community discussions, the project explores the contributing factors and reasons why our cultures remain largely segregated. Our hope is that by starting a non-politically correct and real conversation about the subject from the viewpoint of those walking the cultural fence, we will gain insight that will help us all overcome the barriers that keep us from moving forward as one society.
Your generous support will fund:
- The writing of an academic quality book
- Survey results from 1200-1500 participants from all 50 states
- Two (2) short films
- Dozens of interviews
- Five (5) community gatherings
- Limited edition hard cover publishing run
- Multi-media digital publishing run with integrated video/photos/interviews
Your support of Just Don't Bring One Home is the beginning of a conversation long overdue. Let's talk!
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Q: Why does the project focus on black and white cultural differences?
A: We understand that there are many types of interracial couples and that cultural differences between all types of cultures cause friction at times. However, the black/white relationship in the US is very unique. Many parents do not mind so much if their son or daughter brings home an Asian or Hispanic partner, but the choice to have a black or white partner often meets a very different reaction.
Q: Why focus on differences at all?
A: It's true that we all bleed and love the same. But our children are not educated the same and we do not live the same, talk the same or even eat the same. Of course we have more in common than we have different. However, our commonalities are not what is keeping us apart. Our differences or rather the fear of one another's differences is what keeps our cultures largely segregated. We hope that by talking specifically about our differences, we can overcome the fears and discomfort about what makes us unique and embrace our differences to form One Society.
Q: What is One Society?
A: One Society is a literary and film series that fosters open discussion and acceptance of all cultural differences in the US for the purpose of creating one united society. One Society includes the Just Don't Bring One Home project, which focuses on race relations between the black and white communities.
Q: Do you have other projects planned?
A: Yes--we envision future projects discussing the timely topics of immigration, marriage and other rights for LGBT citizens, and socioeconomic and class disparities. Although Just Don't Bring One Home is our first project in the series and is dear to our hearts because we are an interracial couple, we see these projects as a compilation of stories from all of us. Each story has multiple sides. We like to collect the voices from all sides and put them together to paint a clear picture of the issues. Even if we do not change minds or hearts, we can be sure that we've done our best to promote the voice of everyone involved in ways that are personal, meaningful and without exploitation. Our dream is that by honoring all voices, we can motivate social change.
Q: Haven't we all heard enough about these issues? This stuff is on the news and talk shows all the time.
A: The problem with the discussion of these topics in mass media is that the presentation is more about selling ad space or time slots than it is about fixing anything broken. We do hope to sell a lot of copies of our book and we hope as many people as possible see our films. We believe we can do that while also being honest and honoring everyone involved. Keeping the story balanced is very important. Telling the story in a way that fosters understanding and opens people's hearts to change is required.
Q: Is racism really still an issue?
A: Yes and YES! Only now the issue is more subtle and complex then it was before. Racism goes both ways; there is suspicion, confusion, anger and fear on both sides. From our experience, most people are not actively racist; rather they are just ignorant regarding what is offensive to others and why. The vocal, overt few (maybe 10%) that are racist cause a lot of problems for the rest of us. The rest of us are often left with anger, fear and guilt. These strong and negative emotions do not help overall. We hope the conversation generated by this project will move us all forward to interaction that is honest and positive.
Q: Why can't we all just get along?
A: We don't know. But we're going to find out.
Q: How did you meet?
A: Wesley and I met online on Plenty of Fish (a free dating sight). Having said that, we do not advocate online dating without research and caution. There are a lot of weirdos out there. Having said that, we're glad we widened our dating pool by giving the online experience a chance because we made a perfect match in one another.
Q: Why make your lives more complicated by choosing to be with a person of a different race?
A: It would be dishonest to say that dating a person of another race (particularly the black and white combination) is not a conscious decision. We all understand that there is constant attention, curiosity and sometimes, outright vehemence against such partnering. We all start out (if we haven't been doing it since middle school) a bit curious and trepidatious. But at the end of every day, we do not consciously choose who we love.
I knew the first conversation I had with Wes by phone that he was it. He says the same about me. The relationship still could have been won or lost in the following weeks and months as we continued to explore one another's personalities and philosophies, but that initial attraction and sharing of language and perspective is rarely wrong. Interracial couples get together for all sorts of reasons, but the right reasons are the same as for anyone else--because we love each other!
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